How can I deal with this

Question

My bf and I live in different cities for reasons that I don't want to talk about them. I will move to his city by January 2009, but at the moment, we just keep in touch each other by phone calls and e-mails, and 2-days visits every 2 months.

The thing is that every time we talk, I cannot stop crying. I feel so horrible being hearing him and don't be able to be by his side. Sometimes, I would like to close my eyes and fly the 400 miles that separate us, this is just my imagination because it's impossible to do it...

He feels bad when I start crying, but I cannot hold my tears. This happens always I hear him and I don't know how to deal with this.

I don't want to make my bf feels guilty because the main reason why we are separate comes from him.

How can I deal with this sadness until january 2009, when we finally will be near each other??

I'll really appreciate your advices!

Answer 1

The time will fly!

My husband and I were apart for five and half years (and, unfortunately, he WAS in prison).  I had to wait for his calls everyday, since I couldn't call him, and I drove the poor mailman crazy waiting outside for a letter.  The closest he was was 225 miles away.  I drove to see him every weekend.  For two and a half of those years he was 420 miles away up near Sacramento.  I would drive to see him twice a month.  

When they were on lockdown, there were times I couldn't talk to him for weeks.  

My friend's husband was in Iraq when the war first began.  Weeks would pass without hearing from him.  She worried he had died.  She always tried to keep herself busy so she wouldn't get too sad or cry.  

You are lucky you will be with your friend soon.  Meanwhile, enjoy your phonecalls and emails, and look forward to your trips when you get to see him.  

Answer 2

Dear friend,

I hope you are really good.

I do not have much to say but the only thing that you can do is be patient and keep up with your ideals and your dream will come true as soon as you think, never give up.

Just try to be strong and don't cry when you talk to him I know is not easy but try it.

When you are feeling so down just close your eyes and think about both of you and how happy you are when you guys are together even thoug is only two days.

When love is first no matter 400 miles the most important thing is LOVE and trust in yourself and why not on him.

Once again  BE PATIENT.

Take care my lovely sister do not forget love is over all.

  

Answer 3

go to him 400 miles is like 7 or 8 hours by car. or is he in jail?

Answer 4

Saludos, un fuerte abrazo, besos a tu alma y estrellita para ti, amiga...que estès bien!

Unicornio*

Answer 5

How long have you been apart?  I think you need to see him.  You may see each other for two days every two months, but I think for your sake plan a three day weekend where you can just go out and sneek some extra time with him before you move.

Obviously you need him right now.  Otherwise tears would not come so easily.  And for whatever reason you may need him, listen to yourself and your heart. Go to him. Steal some extra time. even if it's just for one day.  I'd do.  The planning keeps you preoccupied, the trip gives you a goal and anticipation.

Until then maybe try writing him letters throughout the day/week about how you are feeling, why you miss him so, what you wantt to do with just you two, why you need him.  Maybe one day you'll be able to give it to him otherwise keep it to yourself for your own mental sake.

Stay strong.