How can I do this without being hurt again?

Question

Me and my ex broke up 5 months ago. I haven't seen her for 6 months. I stopped thinking about her, and we now have a class together. She was my first everything, and I'm just wanting some advice on how to not let that effect me this year. I still want her, but I we can't be together, what do i do. We agreed that we would try to be friends this year, and its not looking like we will get back together, and that makes me sad, but its probably for the best, so what should I do?

Answer 1

Why do you brake up in the first place?

Find some other friends to go out with and date other people too.  

Answer 2

you have a tough job here! I know that when you have a "first everything" person in your life it is extremely hard to avoid them all together.... But, if you can it is better. Any chance you can change that class? Bad enough her presence at the school will be there, but knowing every day that you will be struggling thru a whole hour or so with her in the same room could cause you to focus only on her being there and you may be wasting your time in that class. You won't be able to be yourself and you probably won't be able to focus on what is necessary to get thru for a good grade.  Time will heal this, so will another girl for you... but for now, try to avoid seeing her.  Good luck!

Answer 3

You can be friendly towards each other but you don't have to be BEST friends.  I tried to do that too soon after a breakup & it didn't work at all.  When one person still has feelings it only leads to pain & confusion.  Do you really want to be the friend when she's talking about whatever new guy she's seeing?  Probably not.  Be civil, don't get too close & focus more on yourself & what you want now.  Don't place too much importance on her being in your class.  Just focus your energy elsewhere.  Whatever will be will be.  Worrying about what she's doing 24/7 will not help you.

Answer 4

Be friendly towards her but don't go out of your way or start spending time alone.  Your relationship is over now, and unless you want to rekindle it, steer clear of being alone with her.  If you want to be with her, then you will have to accept whatever happens and learn to deal with it as it comes, maybe try and not let your feelings get so involved this time.