How can I encourage a good friend of mine to stop meeting all these losers on the internet?

Question

She always ends up meeting these jerks that are married and lie to her. She's a basket case and I'm scared that some day she'll really run into the wrong person. (Look how good looking and charming Ted Bundy was.) She's not a kid, she's 43 and lives in rural Ohio. Divorced with grown kids. I know she's lonely but there has to be something better than this for her. She's got a good heart, is very intelligent as far as book knowledge and also very pretty....what's the problem? Low self esteem maybe?

Answer 1

Yes, it takes far more courage to "get out there" and meet people face to face than on the internet. But, at least she can pick up on a person's body language and read their signals which is definitely something you can't do on the internet.John Douglas who founded the Behavioural Sciences Unit at Quantico, for the FBI, wrote a book a couple of years ago about the first internet serial killer who would lure lonely women to his home with promises of a luxury lifestyle etc. The internet is most definitely not a way to meet a man.

Answer 2

There are men out there who prey on lonely women like her, whether its quickie s*x, identity theft or worse.  Perhaps suggest she develop local social outlets.  Maybe she's afraid of ridicule by her neighbors.  That may be the reason she's meeting all these low lifes on line.  

Answer 3

Ask her whats shes getting out of meeting them and nothing has come out of meeting them..You say there losers ask her!   Maybe it could be that she does have low self esteem dunno, but I would talk to her.