How can I ensure that my man will not cheat on me?

Question

I am falling in love again after a horrible breakup withmy son's father and I dont want this man to hurt me...

Is there anything I can do to make sure he doesn't cheat on me he is a wonderful man and i dont want to mess things up

Answer 1

Unfortunately.. there isn't anything you can do. You have to trust. If you feel he is a good enough  man to be with.. then go with that. You sound like me.. hurt before.. but still optimistic. I am still a bit scared here and there.. but as long as I haven't been given a crazy enough reason to not trust him-- then I keep moving forward. I pray that I don't get hurt.. b/c I want this to work!.. Just keep an open heart.. and hope for the best. Communication is a lot.. so if he has any issues or concerns .. or if you do-- just talk about it.  He should understand your trust issues.. and be supportive. Good Luck

Answer 2

Don't judge this new man by your ex.

Answer 3

just be the best you can be. if that is not enough for him than you dont need him anyway  

Answer 4

nothing you can do, well, unless your fat then you can try and loose weight to help curb his lustful appetite for petite biatches....if your worried about him cheating, then he probably will! us men cheat usaully, well, its an ego thing, and keeps our game sharp! sounds your a little insecure yourself so if i were you i would take a break from us guys, stay single, and go out and fun...maybe sleep around a bit! hey, beats worrying about your boyfriend out there s******g your best friend, friends grandma...  

Answer 5

Nothing you can do.  Find out about his past and see what has happened in past relationships and then base your decision on that.  If he is gonna cheat on you there is nothing you can do about it.

Answer 6

No, you can't control what anyone does, just treat him good and hope for the best. If he is a really good man, he won't even think about cheating and risking what he has. Takes a long time to really get to know someone though, a couple of years and couples really let their hair down.

Answer 7

unfortunately, there is nothing you can do about that. you will not be able to control the future nor his actions.

all you CAN do is treat him well and trust him unless he gives you a reason to not trust him.

but also remember that sometimes one gives their heart out only to realize it wasnt worth it..

best of luck with this new guy. i hope he is the one for you!

Answer 8

hmmmmm, there is no way to ensure that he will not cheat on you. but make sure that you do not behave in ways that will give him the idea that you expect that he might. what i mean is don't make him feel that always have that in the back of your head. that always really bothered me with my GF is that because she was hurt in the past, she would treat me as if she was preparing herself for a repeat. it really hurt me, because i would never do something like that, and for her to believe that i could do that bothered me.

the one thing that i do that ensures her that i am not going to cheat on her is that i tell her everything that goes on. so anything that i may do with another girl (conversations, study groups, etc...) she will know about it either before or after the event. it bugs her sometimes, but she understands that i do it so she does not feel like any part of my life is being kept from her.

so maybe you should just try to have as open a relationship as possible with your man. maybe talk to him about your fears of being hurt so that he can understand your thoughts. i'm only 25 and im really new to this whole relationship thing. (ive only been in one) but communication would give you reassurance about this.  

Answer 9

stop dwelling on it. there is an old metaphysical proverb, "what you fear you draw near"

Answer 10

Daily bj's would help

Answer 11

You can only trust your instincts and not let yourself be fooled.

Answer 12

To be truth-full is a good place to start tell this man how you feel and whats happened to you in the past with your sons father and if you want him to no that you are worried about getting hurt again let him no that you don't want some one to cheat on you and you feel the same that you would not cheat on him lay your cards on the table and go from their good luck

Answer 13

There's really nothing you can do to ensure that someone won't hurt you.

One thing you can do is to not compare him to your ex.  He's a different man, and even though your ex hurt you, that doesn't mean that every other man will.

Take your time getting into this relationship and make sure that there is good communication between the two of you.

Answer 14

Unfortunately, you cant control what other people do. You can be the best woman in the world but he might still cheat because cheating isnt caused by the woman (or man) its caused because he is selfish. If your man is going to cheat its going to be because he doesnt care, hes selfish or just a dumbass. Of course he will try to tell you its because you havent done this and this and this, but its not true. So this is where trust comes in. Becoming paranoid about it will only make you lose it, so trust your man. If he seems like hes cheating or if he does cheat, then you know exactly what to do. Dont put up with it, and kick him out

Answer 15

Unless you tie him up in your closet and never let him near a phone, internet or leave, you can't.  

Answer 16

Nope, there's nothing you can do to control the actions of another person.

In fairness to both of you though, don't be distrustful of him until given reason to.  And then, don't allow it to continue.  He isn't your ex and doesn't deserve to be judged as such.