How can I expalin to my wife to save my face and my marriage?

Question

My wife lately acted so strange and wouldn't talk to me. After a lot of pleadings, she finally said "see what is inside the computer and I 'll tell you why". Since I have a lot of porno pictures of males in my pc that I forgot to delete, I definitely believe that she was angry because of this. I managed to tell her to put off the talk until I arrived from work tonight..Now that I am in the office I am thinking of any ways on how to explain to her about these photos so she wont have a hint that I am Bi. How could I react and what explanations that I could possibly tell her so she mgiht as well love me and save my m,arriage...please anybody help me!!....I am so sacared.......I love my wife and kids.....

Answer 1

Wow. That's tough.

Well, I suggest you just come clean and be honest with her, because I bet a lot of things are racing through her mind now. Just tell her that you let your desires empower your controlling nature, and that you were wrong to do so, because as you say, you love your wife and kids, and you wouldn't want to do anything to jeopardize this.

So, hopefully she will forgive you, and come to understand you better and work things out.

But, let go of your desires to give into things that will take away what you treasure most. Or ask yourself, which is your most productive and satisfying way of life.

Hope things work out.

Answer 2

are u g*y or want to be one  

Answer 3

If you are Bi, then its ok...well not really but you can't act on these feelings and that means no more g*y p**n, no more p**n period. You shouldn't tell her that you are Bi because that would break up your family but make a promise to allah and your wife to never make this same mistake and just act like it is a surprise to you and that you had no idea about them. you messed up big time ......

Answer 4

Be honest and tell her.  She will know if you are keeping secrets and will likely leave.

Answer 5

Umm...first of all...your wife needs to know you are Bi...how did this even happen with her finding it...thats a mess bro. Tell her that it doesn't mean anything- try telling her the truth. That you maybe used to be into that but now that you are married u are not? ( i hope not)...maybe you should confront yourself and make sure that your bi-sexuality is not just a stop on the way to gaytown.

Answer 6

um.. are u muslim ?  

Answer 7

You could always try telling the truth.  You know, that old - 'no secrets between us' kind of thing?

And if you're not a Muslim why are you posting here?

Answer 8

How the h**l did she find the porno? You should have been more careful, and saved these photos, or files as 'virus1' 'virus2' that way, no-one would have clicked or found them!

As for saving your marriage, well, you have to sincerely repent to God for your homosexuality tendencies, and abstain, or curb your desires/ways from even going there, for the sake of your marriage and kids.

You can also tell her that it was an email (virus) you accidentally opened, which had sent you these images of naked men, or what ever the h**l it is that is saved on your PC.

Answer 9

Just tell her that you've got The g*y and see if she's up for a threesome.

Answer 10

Do your wife and children a favor and leave them. File for divorce and send monthly child support. You don't want your children learning your filthy behavior. So do it for the kids and the wife and leave them. Your wife deserves better and so do your children !i

Answer 11

p**n is unacceptable.  Point barre.

I would divorce you in a second if it was straight p**n or g*y.

Answer 12

The return of Isa(Jesus)-alaiyhis salaam

The Physical Features of Hadhrat Isa (A.S.)

He will resemble the famous Sahabi (A.S.) Hadhrat Urwa bin Masoodi (R.A.). He will be of average height and red and white in colour. His hair spread to the shoulders, straight, neat and shining as after a bath. On bending his head, it will seem as if pearls are falling. He will have an armour on his body. He will be wearing two pieces of cloth light yellow in color.

His Descension

He will descend on a Jamaat (group) that will be righteous at the time and comprising of 800 men and 400 women. The people will be preparing for war at the time against Dajjal (the anti-Christ). It will be time for Fajr prayers, and Imam Mahdi will be the Amir (leader). From the darkness of the dawn, a sound will suddenly be heard that "one who listens to your pleas has come" -- the righteous people will look everywhere and their eyes will fall on Isa (A.S.). Briefly, at the time of Fajr, Isa (A.S.) will descend. When descending, Isa (A.S.)'s hands will be on the shoulders of two angels (according to another source (Kab Abrar), a cloud will carry him). On their insistence Hadhrat Isa will introduce himself. He will inquire about their enthusiasm and thoughts on Jihad against Dajjal. Hadhrat Isa (A.S.) will descend on the eastern side near the Minaret in Damascus (or in Baitul-Muqaddus by Imam Mahdi). At the time Imam Mahdi will have proceeded forward to lead the Fajr Salaat. The Iqamat of the Salaat would have been said (already recited) and Imam Mahdi will call Hadhrat Isa (A.S.) for Imamat (to lead the prayer), but he (Hadhrat Isa (A.S.)) will instead tell Imam Mahdi to lead the prayer since the Iqamat of that Salaat has already been said for him. Thus Imam Mahdi will lead the prayer, and Hadhrat Isa (A.S.) will follow him. After the ruku, he will make this statement: "Allah has killed Dajjal and the Muslims have appeared."

The Killing of Dajjal and the Victory of the Muslims

After the completion of Fajr Salaat, Hadhrat Isa (A.S.) will open the door behind him where Dajjal accompanied by 70,000 Yahudis will be. He will indicate with his hand to move away between him (Hadhrat Isa (A.S.)) and Dajjal. Dajjal will then see Hadhrat Isa (A.S.). At that time every Kafir on whom the breath of Hadhrat Isa (A.S.) will reach, will die. His breath will reach up to the distance of his eyesight. The Muslims will then come down from the mountains and break loose on the army of Dajjal. There will be war, Dajjal will retreat, and Hadhrat Isa (A.S.) will pursue Dajjal. Hadhrat Isa (A.S.) will have two flexible swords and one shield with him and with these he will kill Dajjal at the Gate of Hudd. He willl show the Muslims the blood of Dajjal which will get on his shield. Eventually the Yahudis will be selected and killed. The swine will be killed and the cross broken. People will revert to Islam. Wars will end, and people will return to their respective countries. One Jamaat (group) of Muslims will remain in his service and companionship.

Hadhrat Isa (A.S.) will go to Fajr Rawha and perform Haj or Umrah (or both) from there. He will also go to the grave of Rasulullah (Sallallahu Alayhi Wasallam) and present his greetings and Rasulullah (Sallallahu Alayhi Wasallam) will reply. People will live comfortable lives. The wall of Yajooj and Majooj will then break.

The Blessings of Hadhrat Isa (A.S.)

1 Hadhrat Isa (A.S.) will descend and stay on earth.

2 His descension will be in the last era of the Ummat.

3 He will be a just ruler and a fair judge.

4 His ummat will be the Khalifa (deputies) of Rasulullah (Sallallahu Alayhi Wasallam).

5 He will act himself and instruct others on the Qur'an and Hadith (Shariat of Islam).

6 He will lead people in Salaat.

7 He will stay on earth for a period of 40 years after descending. This will be the best era of the Ummat after the first era of Islam.

8 Allah will protect his companions from Jahannam.

9 Those who will save the Deen of Islam by associating themselves with Hadhrat Isa (A.S.) will be amongst the most loved by Allah Ta'ala.

10 During this period all other religions and mazhabs besides Islam will perish, hence there will be no kuffaars in the world.

11 Jihad will be stopped.

12 No Khiraaj will be taken.

13 Nor Jizya (protection) money from the kafirs.

14 Wealth and property will be in surplus to such an extent that there will be no one to accept the wealth of the other (everyone will be independent).

15 Receiving Zakaat and Saadaqa will be discarded.

16 The people will love the sajda (prostration) more than the world and what it consists of.

17 All types of Deeni and worldly blessings will descend on earth (many halaal (lawful) things will be created).

18 There will be peace, harmony and tranquility during the time of Hadhrat Isa (A.S.)'s stay in the world.

19 There will be no animosity for a period of seven years, even between two persons.

20 All hearts will be free from miserliness, envy, hatred, malice and jealousy.

21 For a period of forty years no one will fall ill or die.

22 Venom will be taken out of all venomous animals.

23 Snakes and scorpions will not harm anyone to the extent that if a child put his hand in its mouth, he will not be harmed.

24 Wild animals will not harm anyone.

25 If a man will pass a lion, he will not be troubled or harmed, or even if any girl will open its mouth to test if it will do anything.

26 The camels will graze among lions, cheetahs with cattle and the jackals with goats.

27 The fertility of the land will increase to such an extent that even if a seed is planted in a hard rock, it will sprout.

28 A pomegranate will be so huge that a jamaat will be able to eat it and the people will use its peel as shade.

29 There will be so much barakaat (blessing) in milk that a camel will suffice for a huge jamaat, a cow for a tribe and a goat for a family.

30 In short, life will be most pleasant after the descension of Hadhrat Isa (A.S.).

His Marriage, Death and Deputies

After his descension on earth, Hadhrat Isa (A.S.) will marry. He will have children, and he will remain on earth 19 years after marriage. He will pass away and Muslims will perform his Janaza Salaat and bury him next to Rasulullah (Sallallahu Alayhi Wasallam). (Tirmidhi)

Answer 13

Why not instead of thinking of another lie to live, why don't you roll over on the floor and ask God to help you be honest with you wife and ask him to help your wife understand.

Answer 14

YOur wife is scared and upset. She may feel as if she doesn't really know you and feras that you may be g*y. Explainging to her that you're bisexual isn't a bad idea, infact I think you should tell her. Explain to her that you're bi but looking at g*y p**n is merely just a fantasy and nothing you would act upon because you love her, and are sexually attracted to her and also love your family.

Answer 15

in the west,nothing is sin,not even incest,and g*y relations then what are you afraid of !! heads up dude you are a bi !!!

Answer 16

Well I don't think there's a way for u to explain anything, but its easy to save the marriage.

Go and cuddle with her and play around, maybe go out to eat and then go back home and make love.

Remember:

"Love is the answer to all failure between couples."

Answer 17

You should have told her you were bi before you got married.My husband didn't tell me and now were divorced.It may be too late for you.Thats not somthing you hide from the person your supposed to spend the rest of your life with.And if you do stay together it will never be the same.Now she not only has to worry about the other "woman" now she has to worry about you being around other men.You say you have pics on your computer of men,so she's probably thinking she's not enough for you.I would say good luck but I don't think you deserve it.