How can I feel closer to my dad?

Question

He has been a good father but I feel detached from him. I know the reasons why I don't like him are probably not the best reasons- he didn't like my bf bc of racial reasons and made me lose my job over it. I was month away from being eighteen. I just feel he is always telling me what he thinks and sometimes I overhear him saying hurtful things. I just don't want to talk to him. I'm moving out for college soon and I want things to end on good terms.

Answer 1

Your dad wasn't trying to cause you harm, he was doing what he thought was the best thing to do at the time.  But you took it to heart, and your feelings were hurt - so there is probably a "wall" now between you and your dad.

You say you don't want to talk to him, but that you want to leave on good terms.  I would start by deciding within yourself to forgive him for the negative things he did toward you - that will clear up your attitude toward him.  You don't have to tell him you forgave him - just do it within your own heart.  Then, find something to do with him that will help take your minds off your uncomfortableness.  For example, play a board game, or go to a movie together, or go with him to the mall.  That will help to break down the barrier between you.

You might not need to talk with him about your recent issues.  Once he sees that you are friendly and cheerful towards him, he will know you have put it behind you.  When you leave for college, you can give him a hug and a kiss, and tell him you love him.  That's the best way to say goodbye.

Answer 2

lol if your dad likes video games... thats what i do