How can I feel more secure about s*x when I feel fat?

Question

I am 5'8" and weigh around 140. My weight tends to vary between 136 and 142 and I usually wear a 6 or 8 , depending on where I buy and the manufacturer. I am busty and have even meausurements. Compared to all my bf's p**n mags, I feel really fat.

Answer 1

Go to the gym and work with an attendant toward a target body...nothing is wrong with improving what you have; and from what you told us, your weight is not the issue, possibly just your tone.

Answer 2

why should you feel fat?

your not- at least in australia 6 or 8 is tiny, not so sure about america

you're probably gorgeous

it sounds like you just need help with self confidence

i might suggest drama or public speaking, it will give you confidence

Answer 3

one: do not try to compare yourself because he has chosen you to be his gf and has no connections to girls on p**n mags, he probably respects you if you don't want s*x and thinks of your future together with babies may be difficult with things the way they are now, since s*x can make you pregnant

two: he is trying to boost his creativity in the bedroom by looking at examples, he may just appreciate women in general, visually he may be stimulated and this gets him aroused and horny for you like his way of masturbating in his mind

three: try sitting next to him while he reads the magazines, suggest to him that they all look beautiful and he may surprise you, he might see this as your acceptance of his ever growing sexual appetite and your knowledge that no matter how good women look they arn't you and you understand that as much as he does. If he doesn't understand than it may be good to ask him what parts of your personality make him attracted to you, but not to other girls. He may not even know how to say it, so don't get angry because he can't describe his feelings.

Answer 4

NEVERRRRRR ever think that way about yourself ...if you start thinking negative about yourself ...so will everyone else...you need to know your the BEST ! and everyone else will think that about u too.

confidences is the sexiest thing for a woman!

Answer 5

ur fat. huh! i don't think so, um all p**n chicks are sticks and i don't think a girl  should ever  compare herself to a woman who does p**n! i'm a size 12 (aus size)  and u know what i don't think i'm fat compared to them. your a real woman and don't think ur not ur bf loves u for who you are!

Answer 6

In order to share yourself with someone…

You need to be confident of the figure that your body carries.

If you’re not, then chose to burn down the excessive fat in your body.

Eat healthily, exercise regularly.

Soon you’ll be in great shape.

And your confidence too will boost up.

Answer 7

Find a man who makes you feel like the most desirable woman in the world. Feeling fat should be the last thing you are thinking of while having s*x. Esp. if your a size 6-8.

Answer 8

if you send me your pic then i can gauge you more accurately.. but i think master the art of pleasing ur man what he likes and dislikes.. most men love oral s*x and no matter how fat  u are he will surely come back to you.

Answer 9

Is he humping the p**n mags or you?  Is he complaining  about your body?  ... Trust me, when he's on top of you he's not thinking, "d**n she's fat".....   He's just thinking about blowing his load!  Relax and be proud of what you got!  

Answer 10

Toss those mags, their raunchy and its disrespectful for him to leave them around for you to find anyway.  Your size is fine...mags are fake, come onnnn..youve heard of photoshop havent you?  

Answer 11

A good way is to buy some s**y underwear that you can put on to get you "in the mood". Also having a glass of wine sometimes helps. Maybe you and your bf should watch p*rn together that sometimes makes you feel adventurous!

Answer 12

p**n is fake. Oh and your bf chooses to be with you not some stupid porno girl that has more silicone that in her then something that has a ton of silicone in it that would make this sentence funny.

Be yourself! Your bf wants you not those p**n girls!

Answer 13

I suggest you go see a psychologist. Don't compare yourself with anyone.

Answer 14

You have to understand that just about every man looks at p**n, but we don't compare our ladies to these type of women so stop comparing yourself to them because he certainly isn't.  The bottom line is he's with you, if he really wanted a lady like those you see in the magazines he'd be with one, but he's not he's with you.  He's never going to make you completely happy until you're happy with yourself & who you are, you actually are you're worse enemy & no one else is harder on you than yourself.  

Answer 15

Don't compare yourself to women in p**n mags! He's with you, not them. And that isn't fat at all! That happens to be extraordinary! I think you're just letting your imagination take over. He probably thinks you're gorgeous! Every guy owns p**n and those happen to be the type of women in it: emaciated sickly s*x objects. Why would you wanna be that? Love yourself and your body! It's waaaay better than theirs.

Answer 16

What has happened to people's self esteem these days?

Answer 17

You really shouldn't compare yourself to p**n stars, they're p**n stars for a reason. But anyway, you should really feel secure with anyone you chose to have s*x with! :)

Answer 18

1. If you're unhealthy, at that weight (which I don't know, I'm not a nutritionist), you should probably try to lose a little. of course it's just as bad being anorexic like a lot of models, that is also unhealthy.

2. If he's your boyfriend he obviously likes you, so why should you be afraid to show yourself in front of him, he probably thinks about your body and still stays with you, its not like you're going to go to bed and then he's going to run out at the last second.

Hope that helps.

Answer 19

Well you would next to p**n magazines, they are only like 50 pages long, what's that, like 2 cm thick? Ridiculous width.

:P Laughter helps all anxieties imo. But seriously, according to BMI (which really is a bad indication of weight, but it still gives some indication at least) you are well within the healthy range.