How can I find someone who gave up a child many years ago in Toronto Canada?

Question

Looking for biological mother.

Answer 1

I was given up in toronto & I managed to find my birthmother.

First I went to the catholic children's aid society where I was adopted, to try to get my non identifying information. To warn you they were very rude to me. They couldnt understand why I would want to search. I spoke with an adoption worker there who placed the request for the non identifying & told me that by doing so, I would receive it in about 8 months because there was a wait. I would also get a general search done. Which means if my birthmother had also put in a request to be united the next step would be they would get in touch with both of us, we would have to get a minimum of 6 months counselling each seperatly & then they would arrange and facilitate a face to face.

When my non identifying information came, I was lucky. Someone massively screwed up and didn't black out her name. There was also a letter from her to me that was suppose to have been passed on to my adoptive parents to give to me (which wasn't) and a letter to me that was written by the adoption worker about my birthmother that was also to be given to me by my aparents (wasn't)

Now that I knew her last name (or at least her maiden name), I sat there with the toronto phone book & called each and every listing with that last name. I briefly explained the reason for my call, that my name was such, born on this date, adopted on this date & I had reason to believe this was my last name ...would they have any info that would help me in my search?

Nobody was rude at all. They either said I'm sorry I can't help you or gave me some info on their family history. After ALOT of calls, I went through my speil, and the man at the other end said you must be my sisters daughter, let me call her & I'll have her call you back.

If you need any help at all, please feel free to email me, I'd love to help.

There's also a great website for adoptees full of help from people that have been down this road before. You'll find us at www.adultadoptees.org

Answer 2

You can file your name with the Childrens Aid society where you were adopted from.If you don't know any one will help,Can I suggest from 15 years ago when I met my birth parents,get non iddentifying information first,it's very quick to get this, 3 to 6 months.Take a seriuos  ,objective look at the situation they had when you were given up,remember,people don't change all that much over the time they are13 to 50,they have the same morales and human characteristics,you will go to 8 weeks of mandatory councelling with CAS,before they introduce you to your bio parents,be carefull what you wish for,you may also alieniate your adoptive family permanantly,all these things can happen.your  mom probably can never get over the scar of giving you up,in my case she smothered me with really screwed up guilt and her grief for years until I removed her from my life,she didn't accept this and tried to hurt everyone I knew until I let her in my life again,when I met her I did feel that overwhelming love ,but her problems I found out never whent away,I hope your experience will be better,just remember,people don't change.stokie

Answer 3

i don't now go to the doctors and ask them or you can look at his or her papers that you adopted and see the name of the mom...