How can I fix my life? When will it get better?

Question

In middle school I was really a depressed kid. I had no friends, I had no confidence or self esteem, and I hated my life completely. I am in high school now, and things are going back to the way they used to be. I don't even know what to do. I don't want to go through it again, it was the worst 2 years of my life. My relationship with my mom is fake. I want to go live with my dad but hes never home (always at work). The only people that are there are my step mom and sister and things with them have been really bad lately. I feel like my whole family hates me. I know that they talk to eachother about me behind my back. I still have no friends and no one I can talk to when things go wrong at home. It's not like I can go to a therapist or anything because 1. I can't afford it and 2. my family would never approve of it or even take me to the sessions. More than anything I want to be a normal kid. I want friends. I want to get away from my family. They constantly say horrible things about me to my face. I've spent all morning crying and it reminds me of all those nights I used to stay up crying and thinking about how I could fix things.

Answer 1

wow i feel sorry for you im in high school to my life is simmilar but not as bad as yours well one thing i think you can do would be pay attention to how ppl in your school act and find a group of people you dont know or talk to at all or not often and make sure the group has some of the same interests as you and hopefully you get some friends maybe another reason why you dont have any is possibly because u spent ur life not talking to anybody so no one really knows you so they can make fun of you behind ur back easily so just try to do what i said and what other ppl say it its good advice and hopefully you get some friends soon you seem to be nice

Answer 2

get a job and save your money in a bank account no one knows about or can take from you.  I grew up in a family that didn't like me and I was always the new kid in school so I never had any friends until right before we moved again!!!  Try to learn some skills like cutting hair or fixing things.  If there is a motorcycle repair course get aboard!!!  Once you can manifest money then you have more options.  Do you have grandparents who care?  Try to find an ally. Go for the geeks because they have knowledge and knowledge is power ultimately.  And know that it will get better as long as you avoid #1 drugs #2 or any other way that makes you a victim. Make a 5 point gratitude diary each day list 5 things you are thankful for.  I know that this sounds truly trite but I worked for me when I was semi suicidal.   And shrinks are much over rated..before there were shrinks people went to rabbis,ministers and priests who did the same thing--got people to feel better, and gave them reasons to continue on in the best way possible.  

Answer 3

Dear Shay, I do not want to come across as patronising or anything like that....

What i would say, judging by your age you are being heavily influenced by your emotions, I guess in your life everything is either black or white?

Try and talk to your family in a mature manner, there will appreciate this more and see that you are a growing adults with emotions and needs :)

Please don't sit crying on your own....it will only make you feel worse, please talk to either your family or a friend who you feel you can trust.

I'm here if you want any further help :)

Good luck and be strong and honest!

x

Answer 4

Is there anyone at school you can talk to? A teacher or a counselor? It can be tough to go through rough patches all alone. It's the start of a new school year so that's a good time to meet people and make friends. To have friends, you have to be friendly yourself. Say hello. Smile. Make a joke (or don't, if that's not your style). It can be hard when you're going through things at home, but making friends and thinking about other things (a hobby, maybe) can take your mind off of your home life even if for a little while. For me, I know thinking about something too much makes it seem even worse. So go out and meet people, get involved in an activity or club after school, or just be active(run, dance, walk around your neighborhood). Most importantly, smile. It really does make you feel better, even if you're faking it at first :) Good luck!

Answer 5

Life will get much better for you. It may seem like everything is all wrong but it would surprise you if you knew how many young people feel the same way.  Much of it is likely related to adolescence; it's an extremely difficult time and the feeling of isolation is natural.  The good news is it's very short-lived. Keep reminding yourself of that! It may seem like an eternity but it will pass before you know it. Until then, my advice to you would be to keep yourself occupied by doing something productive. It can be anything and if you don't have any hobbies, try until you find something that sticks - you'll know when you've found it. You see, when we find something we're passionate about, everything  else tends to fall in place. And most importantly, you'll become less self-aware, develop better self-esteem, and people will notice that! The irony is at that point, it won't even matter to you that much. Good things are in store for you - just keep your head up and things will fall into place.

Answer 6

Write about a problem that is bothering

you.  Take one problem at a time.  

See it written down?

Next, what can you do to improve

it?  Work on you.  Don't worry about

anyone else.

Tackle the next problem

until you have some peace.

Don't argue at family members.

Let them talk.  Work on being

the best person you can.