How can I fix this relationship?

Question

Yeah, it's another repost, but I feel the more advice I get, the better. Just don't give me c**p because it's long. This is important to me.

I met a girl online, fell in love with her, thought she'd fallen in love with me. I recently visited her family, they don't know about us. The first night there I had a chance to kiss her and let it slip away. Then I panicked over it and sent her a bunch of messages the next two days about wanting to talk with her alone. I'm pretty sure I scared her. Then another guy came, another friend of hers. He's alot more social than me, and lives alot closer to her. I'm afraid she may have fallen for him, and even if she didn't...

She said that we could talk about things, but we never got to. She said she didn't want to rush things, even though we talked before about kissing. It was the second time I'd seen her in person. She said we could talk over the phone, but she never called. the day I left I gave her a hug and whispered "I love you."

Than after all that, she now sent a message saying it won't work. she didn't give a reason why and says she can't because the next few days are busy for her.

I know I've screwed up, but I love her and I don't want this to end like this. I don't want to lose her. Please, I want to save this, I don't want to lose her. What do I do? do I tell he sister about us? Do I call her and try to talk? How do I go about it?

I've known her for about a year. Realized I'd fallen for her near mid-March

and I've just found out from a mutual friend, she sent a message that said "I had a traumatizing weekend."

Please, help. Pray for me. What do I do?!

alot of you are telling me to give her time. how much time?

and to anyone else out there who thinks the question is too long, don't bother answering. I need advice, not insults. Please answer the questions.

I know you're all trying to help, and you are. I didn't think I'd have to wait as long as you're all telling me, but I've had a very hard time trusting people for the past 10 years and so this is the first relationship I've been in, because I wanted to be with someone I felt I could trust.

However, I don't really see any of you giving any advice on what I should do to try and repair things, just telling me it won't work. Thing is, I want to make it work, I just need help knowing how to do that. I'd been talking with her for about seven months before I realized I'd fallen for her.

Answer 1

You can't fix this relationship!  You can try until you're blue in the face but if the girl doesn't love you there's nothing you can do about it.  You can't make someone love you.

She's told you it won't work...she doesn't want it to work.  She wants something different than you do.  

You don't need more time!  You can wait till h**l freezes over and she's not going to change her mind.

An online relationship is very different to a real life relationship.  You may have connected online but it's more common than not when people meet in person, it's different than what you thought or expected it would be.

There is nothing to save here and you've already lost her and NO, you shouldn't call her and keep trying to force this relationship with her.

She told her friend she had a traumatizing weekend......if you keep this up she's going to think you're stalking her.

You can repost this as many times as you want but you're going to get the same answers.  YOU CANT REPAIR THINGS BECAUSE THERE IS NO RELATIONSHIP TO REPAIR!  She's not interested and you have to respect her decision, back off and move on!