How can I gain confidence?

Question

I went shopping today and decided to look around for jeans. Usually I'm a size 3/4 or a 5 but at DEB and Wetseal and other places like that, I was a size 9. Thats hard for me. That is 4 numbers more than I want it to be. I used to LOVE the way I look but now, I just feel fat and ugly. My style is also different than a lot of people. I feel like its ugly now... I need help. DONT suggest therapy or medication or w/e cuz I'm 13 [almost 14] and I dont wanna go through that.

Answer 1

workout.

you'll feel so much better about yourself even if you dont lose the weight right away.

Answer 2

u have 2 learn to accept yourself and a size 9 isnt fat .and personally i think people with there own fashion r unique i have a lot of friends like u they r very shy got no confidence . but then they die there hair bright colours and wear unusual clothes i think its great . and by the way ur not ugly  

Answer 3

whenever i need to build up my confidence i try to do things that make me feel beautiful. i go tanning, or for a jog. sometimes i buy myself new makeup to experiment with. or i try a new hairstyle. keep yourself busy with trying to be happy with your appearance, rather than dwelling on what you don't like about your appearance :)

Answer 4

You don't need medication or therapy.  I think every woman has those days sometimes.  As for the sizes try not to dwell on that.  They are just numbers.  Being unique and being different is a Good thing.  If we were all the same life would be pretty boring.  Try doing something that makes you happy.  I try and hit the gym or walk when I feel like that.  It makes me feel like I am working on making myself better.  You will find your stride again.  Just know we all have those days and it's okay.  But don't let it keep you down too long.

  Hang in there and Take Care

Answer 5

Size is just a number.  It doesn't make a d**n bit of difference what size you wear.  It doesn't matter whether a label says 3 or 5 or 9--no matter what it says, you're still x number of inches around the waist.  One brand may call that a 3, another may call that a 9.  SO WHAT?  The size some clothing manufacturer puts on a stupid pair of jeans should have absolutely no effect on your self worth whatsoever---do you get it?  You don't need somebody to give you meds or therapy.  You're a normal, overly self conscious teenager.  Find something else to do other than obsess over a number on a label.

Answer 6

okay listen you have ur own way of being beuatiful people can't tell u how to be confident u have to relize that ur beautiful by ur self it's okay to feel self concious but u have to get over it really soon cuz some people will put u down and u have to have confidence to be like i don't care and always remember u must love ur self . and don't worry about fitting in God made u a one of a kind don't let the world change u . p.s. i'm goin though the same problem but i talk to my sister and that helps maybe u can talk to some1 but u have to kno u r beautiful