How can I gain more self control?

Question

i need to control better my own emotions and i don't know how...

sometimes i feel like i don't have control at all...

help?

Answer 1

As with all important questions, there is no easy answer here.

My personal advice, however, because you're asking for it, is to take a couple minutes whenever you get too emotional or too involved and just try to take deep, even breaths and clear your mind of emotion. If you're with other people, just go to the bathroom and give yourself a minute to calm down. Your emotions are in your control, even if it doesn't seem that way sometimes. When they get out of hand, you're subconsciously letting them do so. You don't have to be completely calculated, but know when things are going down a bad path, and try to hit an emotion-reset button.

Answer 2

You're a woman and this is a common problem.  First take a deep breath and then ask the closest male what to do.

Answer 3

Stop and think. The Bible says @ Proverbs 14:17 "He that is quick to anger will commit foolishness, but the man of thinking abilities is hated"

Slow down and consider the consequenses of your actions as the wise one always considers his steps!

Answer 4

DO NOT FORCE - it will only end with even more problems

Emotions that produce high energy in our bodies are fight/flight. This is how we  defend from attack. It is controlled from the subconscience. The subconscience is primitive and does not respond to logic which is the system of control in the fore brain.

To control emotions you will need to 'talk' the same language as subconscience. to do this use skills like NLP, CBT etc. There are breathing technques which will help you take control. Indeed in the 21c there is so much which can help you take control.

It is a wise person who learns and uses the knowledge.

I have given an answer which is based in faces because this is the psychology category. Many of the answers above are R&S or mythology.

Answer 5

Well, try to isolate the emotion and inspect it logically. Realize that you MAY be over reacting and use a method to help yourself level out. It may be slow, deep breathing or reasoning with yourself calmly with inner dialog such as, "Do I have a reason to feel this intensely? It's okay, I just need to calm down now..." etc. and so forth.  

Answer 6

Every time something bad happens FORCE your self to see the bright side of it.

When ever you find you self happy, ignolage what is making you happy  

Answer 7

Watch where the emotion is coming from. Be aware of its existence and originality before doing something about it . Do you feel as if this emotions do really have a base for emerging on exploiting in your head first or is it all senseless ?

Either way you must identify what sets you off , is it stupidity from other people , your pet peeing in your carpet , ect

remember that if someone does something wrong to you , it is their karma and not yours if you react to them in a explosive way then you are making yourself a part of the problem too and therefore it has became a habit

i recommend at least 5 minutes of meditation everyday , just sit somewhere peaceful and watch your thoughts and emotions come to your head when they do so , put them inside a buble and watch them go away from you like clouds in the sky , then leave your mind in blank and take really big breaths . i was like you and this have helped me a lot

when you find yourself in a tormenting situation be totally aware of whats going on and how can you react in  a constructive positive way . instead of just having one option in your head such a s: get mad and scream , have at least 3 of them

1. explode

2.react in a postive way

3. run away

select the one with more benefits at the end of the day , i guess you know which one

Answer 8

yours is quite apposite to me. i always control myself and sometimes i find that i am trying to be so hard on myself......