I live in a small condo bldg. There is an elderly man (he's 80, I'm 45) who lives 3 units away that is a bit overly eager. At first, I would politely say hello when he would greet me in passing. Then one day, I went to a restaurant in town and sat at the bar having a glass of wine. He walked in when I was there and he sat near me and immediately bought me a glass of wine. I don't like to accept drinks from men, but he seemed like a "nice old guy" and he was a neighbor, so I didn't want to hurt his feelings. I became uncomfortable when he offered to drive me home. Since then, he has been kindof forward with me. I mentioned I was unemployed and he came to me another time while I was in the bar and said he would pay me to organize his personal files. Well, I didn't want to go in his house, so I said I would think about it. Another time, I was returning from the bar and mentioned to him (I ran into him in the lobby) that it was my birthday and right away he said oh go back with me, I will buy you a drink. I declined. The next time I saw him at the bar, I changed my seat and moved away from him. He had the bartender send me a drink anyway. Now when I see him in the lobby of the condo bldg, I turn and walk away. He usually says "hey, don't walk away, I want to talk to you". I've really had enough. What can I do to get this guy to leave me alone? I have not said specifically, I don't want to be friends, but I don't think that would do any good.
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