How can I get adopted?

Question

Okay, those who answered my last question know why I'm asking this questoin. But for those who don't know my other question; I have a mom who's not capable of being a mother to me so I want my stepmom to adopt me. My mother, even though I have tried to work things out, is very uncapable of giving me the nurturing a teenager needs. We've been to counciling, and all that did was clear things up for about a week, then back to the horrible days of being treated like a pile of sh*t. I've decided to get adopted by my stepmother, who is more of a mother than my biological one. My mother (of course) won't let this happen, even though I want it and my stepmom's okay with it. Can I still get adopted even though my biological mom won't give me up? And if not, how can I make it possible?

Answer 1

check into emancipation im not sure if it applies to your situations but its worth a shot

Answer 2

I don't know your age, and it can make a big difference.  If you are under 18, your mother might  agree to letting your stepmother become a 'GUARDIAN" WHICH IS NOT SUCH A BIG STEP AS ADOPTION.   Your mother could still feel she had not totally "given you up".  When you are 18, most states let you do an "adult adoption"--- which means only YOUR consent is needed for the adoption to happen, your birth mother's consent is not needed.  It sounds like your heart has chosen your stepmom as the mother who best meets your needs now in your life--- be glad she is there for you.  Perhaps in time the legal issues will get better sorted out.  Can you try for spending more time or living with your stepmom, that might bring a truce to the negativity with your biological mom.  Just thoughts, hope they help a bit

Answer 3

You haven't mentioned your dad.

Talk to him and beware stepmoms sometimes play the "friend" because of their own agendas.

Ask your dad if you can live with him.

Adoption isn't necessary. Good luck, teenage years can be difficult even with having the most loving mature moms.

Answer 4

I would contact your local Legal Aid and explain the situation.  They should be able to help you to petition the court.  Depending on the laws of your state and exactly how the federal law comes down, you may or may not be able to have your mother's parental rights terminated which will allow you to be adopted.  I would carefully inquire about the timing however.  You may end up in foster care for a time under wardship of the state.

Answer 5

Try to convince her that she won't have to pay child support anymore if she signs the consents, and that just because it's on paper doesn't mean she won't be your first mom.

Answer 6

Essentially, your mother either has to give up her parental rights voluntarily or you need to prove in court that she's incapable of caring for you properly and should thus be obliged to relinguish parental rights. Alternatively, if you can prove that you are able to support yourself, you can seek legal emancipation - although the conditions under which you can do this are limited.

I can't comment on your precise situation, but there's a difference between having an unfit mother and having a mother you just don't feel understands you or treats you like you'd like to be treated. If you really don't want to live with your mother any more, speak with your father (presuming he's married to your strpmother) and discuss the possibility of approaching family court whereby you'll be able to make the case for your father and stepmother to be awarded cutody of you over your mother. Most family courts consider teenagers of age enough to have a say in which parent they choose to live with.

Answer 7

How close are you to 18? This is something to consider if it would even be worth your effort. I'm taking it your step mom is married to your bio dad? If that's the case, could you just go live with dad?

Answer 8

How old are you, my nephew is in the same situation, they just decided that who needs it on paper, they know who the parent that cares is, and he rarely sees his biological mom, if you need the satisfaction of having it on paper talk to an attorney, its different in every state. in utah all you have to do is run it in the paper and if she doesnt callenge it you can be adopted.

Answer 9

I am so sorry I do not think there is really anything you can legally do. However if this is still as important to you when you turn eighteen then you have the right to allow your step mother to adopt you without your mother's consent.

Answer 10

IDK youre age but if you can prove that you can care for youre self you can emansapate youre  self. It is like getting a devo from youre parents. But Mom has to give up rights to you. She may not want that. But you have to get her to signe you away.

Answer 11

i would contact court or kids help lines and tell them...good luck! i hope you figure things out but you know a stepmom will NEVER replace the spot of a mother even though she may be better.