How can I get adoptive parents to let me be more involved in my child's life?

Question

I gave my child up for adoption last year. It was an open adoption and the family agreed to let me be in the childs life. When I call they are always on their way ou the door or they are busy. They have only sent me pictures twice since the babys birth, It's like they are trying to avoid me. Pleas help

Answer 1

maybe they are trying to keep from hurting your feelings but when you make the choice to give up your baby that means you sign over your rights and that the parents have the right to make the decisions in the best interest of the child. good luck

Answer 2

If you live near them...some random day just show up at the door. Also call them and tell them to call you back. If they keep avoiding you talk to the agents. I hope this helped.

-Tara

Answer 3

They don't HAVE to allow you to be more involved in THEIR child's life.  This is not YOUR child it is there child since you gave the child up for adoption open or not.  An open adoption doesn't mean you can see this child whenever you want.  Again this is THEIR child now, you gave up your parental rights end of story.

Answer 4

Try to talk to the adoption agency you used to give your baby up for adoption. Maybe they can help you. If it's an open adoption, they should be letting you see the child, but I don't know what you can do. Sorry.

Answer 5

If it is an open adoption, they are legally required to let you have contact with your child.  Definitely contact the adoption agency you went through, or a lawyer if you have one.  You definitely need to address this issue aggressively so that you don't get pushed by the wayside.

Also, document any attempt you have made (and continue to make) contact with them in an effort to see your child.  Otherwise, if the case goes to court, they will say you express no interest in your child's life and have been distancing the child from you in the best interest of the child.

Good luck.

Answer 6

first I would like to tell you congratulations for being a good biological mother I cannot imagine how hard it must be to make such a hard decision. i agree with what other people are saying call the agency you have the right to see your baby. I also see the parents POV because to them she/he is their child and im sure they dont want the child to be refering to you as mommy. are you being to pushy with insisiting your the biological mother?  Either way I think you should talk to the adoptive parents about it and if they refuse to tell you why they are avoiding you then call the agency. do not let them push you out the door. when the agreement was to have an open adoption!

Answer 7

Well my brother is also adopted and while his parents are not involved in his life, you have every right to be. Since it was an open adoption you should contact the adoption agency and tell them about this or confront your baby's adopted parents face to face so they will have to talk to you about it.