How can I get men to DATE me without having s*x?

Question

I am a college educated 25y/o woman, single no kids. I have a full-time job and have been told that I am very attractive. I am a sexual person and give off that energy (from what I've been told) but I am tired of one-night stands and flings. I meet men ALL the time. From all walks of life and it seems, that no matter how reserved I try to come off---they always are propositioning me for s*x. I am trying to get a committment BEFORE s*x. But how do I show interest or keep a guy around consistently without him thinking I'm being a tease? I have toned down how I dress and I even change topics if a guys starts to speak sexually---but why aren't guys trying to get to know me and DATE me seriously, take me out---why do I have to play like a referee in not letting them get s*x? What am I doing wrong? Should I just start telling guys, no s*x without a committment or should I just let things flow...

Answer 1

hmm, that's a hard one,

but then from your description of yourself, so is this! ***joke****

seriously, you are somehow, just meeting the wrong guys, even though there are plenty of them. I never demand s*x in exchange for commitment!

Maybe you shouldn't try to be reserved, maybe you should become more like a predator, that might scare the wrong ones off, and attract the right ones.

sorry, even as I was typing this I was realising there was a lot of BS! flowing through my keybaord.

Answer 2

Sounds like you aren't interested in the right kind of guys. The right guy for you will not care whether you have s*x with them or not until you both are commited.

Answer 3

You need more willpower - I've been going out meeting several guys since I left school in June and I've just had to force myself to hold back (in a 'physical' way, if you get what I mean), because I dont want to jump into anything too soon so that I won't get hurt

Feel free to thumb me down if you dont agree, I dont really care - it's just, from my OWN experience, I believe it's my own responsibility to hold back and you might want to try the same

Good luck, whatever method you choose :D

Edit to the asker - sorry lovely, I didn't mean you specifically. I just meant in general x thanks, hope I helped :D

Answer 4

Find a guy thats cool with you on a "friend" level first that isbt so concerned about doing it. If you get along as friends and you are feeling that it might work out long term THEN you can go there with him. Hope it works out, i know we can be awful at times :o)

Answer 5

"Tell them you want to see their medical charts

even before you have your first kiss with him."

"Once you both trust each other, there will be

'No harm in waiting'."

"Once he can trust you, he will be more readily,

and eager to commit to you."

"Otherwise, he's only around as Long as he's

having fun with you."

Answer 6

Its because we (single men) hear that our mates are getting it all the time so we are jealous and think we are missing out.

Answer 7

Um... meet them at church i guess

SteveC

Answer 8

Part of that is probably secondary to the type of guys you meet.  A lot of guys these days are into the s*x thing and to meet guys who have s*x as the second or third thing on their minds, you have to look at good places and you have to go to places where there is little sexual tension.

You are pretty, so you've got to be ready to be propositioned but you have to stop it.  A guy cannot have a one night stand with you if you're not willing.  If you don't want them for s*x, steer things away from s*x and don't let anyone get you into a compromised position, play attentive, nice but VERY hard to get otherwise you'll be notches on a lot of bedposts.

Answer 9

Good Luck with that!