How can I get my 33 month old daughter to stop crying all day?

Question

I am a sahm and I have a 33month old girl that constantly cries. If she isn't crying she is whinning.. When we go to church she gets really upset. I have looked up autism and I don't think it's that. She can count to 20. She knows her shapes and her ABC'S and colors. She can recongize the numbers 2. We read books at night before bed as well. Loud noises doesn't bother her and she likes to be held. She just wants to throw tantrums all the time. My sister is an LPN and she tells me as much as she throws them, that it's not normal. I can be sitting down and not saying nothing and she will walk in and start crying then she will run into the wall or fall down kicking her legs. I am disabled and my nerves can't handle this. I am about to go straight to the doctor when we get insurance. Any information you can give me will truely help until I can get her there. My husband just changed jobs so we are without insurance for 60 days. That's y I need help for some info for the moment.

thanks

Answer 1

Are you sure there isn't something bothering her that she just can't communuicate to you. She could be uncomfortable but it's impossible to speculate over the internet.  Is she  allergic to something.  Could be ear infection, urinary tract infection.  Is the house cool enough.  Make sure she is eating a well balance diet, getting enough to drink in the summer heat, sleepinging the same time every day.   don't mean to be rude but maybe your nervousness is rubbing off on her.  Not sure what your disablity is but are you able to play with her all day and participate in activities.  I know first ahnd being a SAHM to a toddler is a full time physically demanding job.  Is she bored???  we  go to the park swimming, on walks, play catch, play lots games, singing, etc.  if she were crying once and a while throughout the day I'd say yeah, that's just her being a toddler but to be crying constantly is NOT normal.  have you considered daycare??  Good luck.

Answer 2

How long has this behavior been going on?  It sounds like she is stressed about something.  If you've ruled out medical issues, and she's on track developmentally, then it's probably something in her environment.  Does she have some control over what is happening in her life?  Do you let her make choices (when appropriate)?  Does she feel safe?  Is she in a daycare where she might be abused?  

Make sure she knows she is loved, tell her that you will take care of her, try to avoid fighting or stressful conversations when she is around.  Let her choose whether to have a grilled cheese or tuna fish sandwich for lunch, let her pick out her clothes even if they don't match, and ask her how she's feeling and let her know it's okay to feel that way even if it's not a feeling you're comfortable with.  Let her cry and tell her it's okay to cry when she's sad and hold her and say you love her.  Talk about the different emotions, bad ones and good ones, and give her words to express herself since she may just be frustrated and doesn't know how to share it.  Good luck.

Answer 3

How is her inter-action with other children?  How is her language development?  Do you have any idea what "triggers" the tantrums?  Perhaps you can keep a log to try to figure out what causes your daughter to become so upset.

You can have your child evaluated by your state's Early Intervention.  I strongly suggest that you contact the office in your area for an appointment.  Their services are either free or only a nominal fee.

This excessive crying is not a typical behavior for an almost 3 child (or any child for that matter).

Best wishes to you.

Answer 4

ignore the behavior, spend more time with her, get rid of the stress that is affecting you because she is feeding off of your energy, and hug her more often.