How can I get my brother's girlfriend to stop calling, texting and emailing me 24/7 without being rude?

Question

She's obsessed with my brother and now I think she's obsessed with me to, trying to find out every little detail about him or asking about me and so on. I feel bad whenever I ignore her and don't respond, or if I make an excuse I'm busy I feel guilty for lying. How can I handle this? She's a nice girl by the way so I wouldn't want to tell her off!

Answer 1

choose a day when you can silence your phone - just accept messages and texts - and don't reply to anything she sends you. If there is any feedback, say that your phone has been playing up, and the tech says it's getting high demand.....could she also communicate with you  at a fixed time, say 4 to 6 pm daily, when it's unlikely that you have a lot of messages, and can get around to all of hers(gentle hint.)

Answer 2

Uh if she's obsessing over your brother and you, I don't think she's quite a nice girl.

It's rather unhealthy for her to obsess over someone. Love is one thing but obsession is another issue. Your brother needs to be careful around her.

That said, send her a text and tell her that you really don't want to be texting all the time, especially about your brother. Don't feel bad. You have other things in life to worry about than her texts. You could also just ignore the texts and sooner or later she'll get the hint. Watch out though, obsessions are dangerous.

EDIT: Oh my god, she wanted to marry him after one meeting? That is a huge hint that you and your family need to stay AWAY from her, FAR AWAY. If your brother doesn't like her attention from far away, imagine close by?

If you are also hesitant about her and uncomfortable, you need to ask her to stop intruding on your lives. The cards and presents are only because she's sucking up to you all and trying to worm her way in quickly. She thinks that if everyone loves her to death, nobody would suspect her mal intentions. Please, please, please, tell your brother and keep your distance. I know what i'm telling you.

this happened to a friend of mine, the being nice and sweet but it was a ploy to get people on her side. In the end, it involved a restraining order and criminal charges.

Answer 3

Be careful here; people that attach that quickly and with that much intensity, can be very dangerous down the road. She is emotionally very needy, bad sign and far too obsessive if she is texting you that many times. This has all the potential to be a Fatal Attraction type situation and your brother will find it very rough going if and when he breaks it off with her. Her sort don't take no for an answer and he could very well end up with a stalker.

Answer 4

Ignore her.  She's the one being rude and annoying.  She can't do it without your assistance.  You're allowing her to disrupt your life and your schedule by responding to her every text/e-mail.  Just ignore her, or tell her flat out - you're contacting me too much.

How does your brother feel about her?  Does he like her or find her to be one step closer to being a stalker?

Answer 5

This is why I never meet people off the internet. Stop all contact with her. She's over the top and she will eventually leave you alone when you have no info to give her.

I've recently had this problem with a neighbor friend who was getting obsessed with my brother and wanting to find out stuff about him through me. Needless to say I stopped talking to her 2 weeks ago and she has since stopped coming over.

Answer 6

This relationship isn't healthy though.  She is obsessive and intruding on your lives.  I have had long-distance relationships.  I was NEVER like that.  He needs to cut her off and find someone on his coast who is less clingy.  Tell him that she is stalking you and you feel uncomfortable.  The sooner this relationship is over, the better.

By the way, not all people on the internet are crazy.  He could have very well met this obsessive girl in a local club or even church (if you go to church).  Don't knock the internet on this one.

Answer 7

Don't tell her anything.

Block her email address in your email client.

You and your brother should change cellphone number.

So, when she finds out they can't contact you, she probably will stop.

Answer 8

When she asks you something just let her know that you don't feel comfortable giving out your brothers info. How does your brother feel about her doing this to you as well as him? Just tell her your a little overwhelmed and don't like to use your phone that much. If she doesn't get the hint as your brother to talk to her. Good luck! If all else fails tell her your phone isn't working right and for some reason your not getting her calls and texts!