How can I get my childs father more involved in her life?

Question

I recently split with my husband and we have a 1 year old daughter....she lives with me.

However, I am in the US and he is in England. I find myself having to call him and tell her to call and speak to her or having to email him to go on line to see her on web cam. I have sent home made vids of her to him so he can se her progress and how she is.However, I seem to be doing all of the initiating...It seems he has no interest in her what-so ever..only when it is convenient for him. How can i keep in involved in her life..i am out of options on what to do. I have spoken to him, but it hasn't really done any good. I want him involved. Any advice?

Answer 1

Well, you're doing all that you can do, sadly.  Why did he go to England?  Or did you leave England to come here?  Either way, both are awful scenarios because your daughter is the one suffering here.  

If I were you, I would simply continue doing what you are doing.  Until he asks you to stop, or doesn't respond at all.  Unfortunately for him this is the only way he can see his daughter.  

Is there nothing you can do to try to get back together?  Like counseling, or attending meetings with a clergy member?

If you broke the relationship because he is abusive I would immediately stop all attempts at trying to reach him.  When your daughter gets older and begins to ask I would simply teach her the lesson that sometimes adults make dumb decisions and you made one in having a relationship with someone who only wanted to hurt you.  Explain that you only love him because he helped give you her, but you don't feel that either of you would be safe if you were in contact with him.

Good luck, but if there is any chance of repairing the situation, please try.  For your daughter's sake.

Answer 2

Honestly, I would not even try. If he wants to see her or talk to her he will. You can't force him. And you might be better off with him out of the picture anyway. Eventually he will probably come around and want to be in her life. He is the one missing out so just let him do what he wants.

Answer 3

it would be very hard, there are time difference, and he probably is in the phase of just starting up life

have you talked to him, it may be that he really apriciate your effort because he is in such a spot atm where he just aint capable of doing so much himself from being exhausted, and not wanting to be inconvinent

so posible you can get some type of schedule or agreement on how best to do this

so yes talk to him how he feel and what he want to do, posible he could be willing to pay for the phonecalls? with a 1 year old it can be hard to time things, and you have it easier to descide when its convinient atm, you know when you got time for things, when she is awake etc