How can I get my mom to give me just a bit of privacy?

Question

She walks into the bathroom to talk to me, or show me a sweater or something, when she knows very well that I'm showering or otherwise. Maybe she and her mother talked in the bathroom all the time? I don't know, and I don't care. It is an invasion of my private space.

She says she loves me and respects me, and when I ask her politely to leave me alone for a while, or don't want to give her a hug, she yells at me.

I'm in high school. She says, when I complain about her walking into the bathroom, that she used to bathe me and change my diapers when I was a baby, and I've explained that now things are different.

I'm not comfortable with that at all. I find it creepy.

Solutions? I've tried talking with her... and the bathroom door does not lock. Haha.

Answer 1

Tell her it feels awkward. It should matter how you feel about your own space not her.

You know, I can understand when my mom walks in my room without knocking (because she's my mum), but my sister's mother in law does it too! And I've only met her a few times before. My bedroom door doesn't lock either. If I'm in a bad mood and I want to be alone, she swings open my bedroom door and starts talking and talking about stuff I don't wanna hear. It's annoying! (I'm in high school too).

Answer 2

Start the arguing part of life and yell at them. I did and now my parents never bother me unless i go out of my room which is rare. I shut my door. Unless its open they know not to talk to me

Answer 3

Get a new door handle for the bathroom, one with a lock.  They are not hard to install and are available at any hardware store or Wal-Mart.  

Answer 4

Ok....my mom does some similiar things.....but let me tell you....my room does not have a door and my bathroom has a shower curtain for a door...now let me explain.....

I slam doors when i am mad, my mom got tired of it and told me that i was going to break the door and privacy was a privilige that i was going to have to live without for a while.

A couple days later we got in a fight, and since I didnt have a door to my room I went and slammed the bathroom door, and it cracked down the middle and lifke literally fell apart....so my mom put a shower curtain on it until I could earn the monry to replace it and I still had to use that bathroom...(unless my father was homw which is very rare, then she let me use hers)....but she let my sister use hers....

I am telling you, it could be worse, I mean i know it is irritating when ur mom walks in on you, it is for me too, and my sister walks in to. it does get old, but i stopped trying to win that fight a long time ago....

(i am also trying to get my bedroom door back!!!so it is better to try and not to fight with my mom...tho it is very HARD)

Answer 5

I got that same **** going on except my doors lock lol. But just ask her why she does it. If she cant give you an answer then thats akward. Get at me on myspace if you got any other questions.

www.myspace.com/eviljs3

Answer 6

If explaining to her that it makes you uncomfortable has not worked, try bringing it up as an issue of mutual respect.  Sit down with your mother for a serious talk, and tell her (with all maturity and politeness) that while it is true that she used to change your diapers, you no longer wear them and would prefer your privacy.  Try to impress upon her that fact that you understand that you must respect her, and that since you are only a few short years away from adulthood, you would appreciate having some of that same respect returned to you.  If she claims to respect you but continues to disregard your preference in this case, then she really isn't showing you the respect she claims to have.

Barring this, buy one of those wedge-shaped rubber doorstops and jam it under the door when you're in there.

Answer 7

tell her maybe she did change your diapers but that was a long time

ago, she don't respect you at all an you know it so you need to put a stop to this. tell her no more hugs an stay out of the bathroom when you are in there,or try putting a lock on the door. an then it will be more private.

Answer 8

I would be creeped out if my mother did that too. Especially as a teen you wouldn't want anyone seeing you nude lol am i right?

Get a new lock and that'll fix everything! Tell her that you're not a baby anymore and you don't want ANYONE walking into the bathroom when you're in it since you've matured and need some space/privacy.  

Answer 9

Sit down with your mom, preferably before an "encounter"  and explain to her that you have grown up and being a teen and all you are are uncomfortable with your body (true or not) and while you recognize that she knows what it looks like you would appreciate a little privacy in the bathroom.  State that it makes you uncomfortable and request that at least she knock if the door is closed to give you a fair warning that she is coming in.

If that fails pack around a brick and block the door..or get a new doorknob with a lock that works!! :)

Answer 10

get the lock fixed. Thats what i can say really!