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How can I get my mom to spend time with me and do I have depression (Symptoms added) 10points best answer!

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First of all, because I know that I’ll get some answers like “Go play with your friends” or “Go to the park/mall/movies/whatever” But I can’t. Here is just some extra info that might help weed out the answers I’m NOT looking for. I am 14. I live in a small complex with my two parents who baby me. I am not allowed out of the complex unless it is to go to school. In my complex is a 8 year old who idolizes me, a 3 year old who is spoiled and cries to much, and a 11 year old who doesn’t speak English. No, It is NOT fun to spend all summer with an 8 year old kid and her baby brother, OK? My Mom doesn’t let me have my friends from school over because she claims they ‘distract her’ inside the house, and outside she has to supervise them. and I can’t go to their house because she says she doesn’t know their parents well enough. (I’ve only been their friend for a year.)

Ok. On to the question. My Mom is addicted to WoW. Yes. Addicted. Her only friend of 10 years has been ignoring her and fighting with her for most of those years. ----I Cannot bring them together again, DON’T SUGGEST IT. PLEASE.---- My Dad is a truck driver and goes out of town every summer for the whole summer and when he does, It leaves me alone with my Mom. At first it is great! She works, so I get the whole day to myself to do ANYTHING I want. After first week though, It gets terrible. And It has come to my attention this month, that I most likely have depression from it. My Mom has this guy on WoW who she Is lying to, (saying she is 23, has my name, and the picture she sent him is my sisters) and he calls her Babygurl. I glanced at the computer and the e-mail she was replying to said something like “I’m glad I have your heart. .you’re a great person…etc.” She talks on a voice chat system with him so I cannot even play piano, which I love to do, or even talk to her or else she yells at me. She doesn’t make me supper, and hasn’t been grocery shopping in two months. Thank god my sisters come over every few days and bring me a decent lunch when my Mom is at work. I am VERY tempted to break the discs/hack the account/whatever but I cannot do that. I’m not that kind of person, and even if I was, she would know it was me. I’m the ONLY one who knows her password (Its jumbled letters) She has lightly slapped me for NOT helping her with her game because I was reading, I’m afraid to do anything to her account. How can I get her to spend more time with me? Please. I’m desperate.

Could someone also tell me if I might have depression?

These are my symptoms:

~I sleep either 4 hours a night, or 17 hours (approximately) It differs by the day and if my sisters come over.

~I very rarely have food to eat and when I do eat, I eat A LOT. I’m talking nine chicken fingers, and four hotdogs in two hours.

~I have pains in my upper arms and legs. Sometimes something as slight as pulling a blanket over my head is enough to cause pain/make it sore.

~I get mad a lot. I have typed and erased about seven swears in this question because I just get so pissed. And when my family call me lazy cause I won’t clean the house for my mom when she gets home from work, I am so mad I feel like I want to hit them. I’m NOT ******* lazy. I just don’t respect my mom. Why should I ******* clean her house when she won’t even lift a finger to keep me healthy???? And its PAINFUL for me. I get so fatigued so much from it sometimes I just collapse onto the couch and sleep.

~I don’t do the things I like to anymore. I cannot bring myself to right my story, or to even read anymore. And I feel my intelligence is being affected.

Just incase people think I am exaggerating my ‘horrible summer’ this is my schedule. One for near the beginning of the summer, and one near the end.

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Please help me. I need advice. And yeah, I guess a bit of this was just venting too. I don’t get to vent that much.

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  1.   I would suggest that if you can talk to your mom and explain to her what you are feeling and that you would like to spend more time with her. From experience I can say that WOW is very addicting and that it is very hard to get away from,but that is what needs to be done. Explain to your mom that if she doesn't want to spend more time with you then to let you at least let you live your life and be able to spend time with your friends. As far as the younger children jsut try to do what you can to help them with the summer. Also explain to your mom that if your friends came over then you would be the responsible "adults" that you can be and watch after yourselves and the younger children so that she soes not have to be drawn aways from the computer. As far as cleaning the house you are correct you should not have to be responsible for the house if she is not willing to feed you. But also in the same respect you should make some effort so that the younger kids will not think that it is ok to just leave the house a mess. I think that if you were to show your mom respect then she might hopfully in turn show you the same respect and try to take care of you and the younger children.Also the symtoms that you are having could be depression but then again if you do not eat then you also get those symtoms.

    If you have any more concerns please feel free to IM me at jrwall20022003@yahoo.com


  2. I'm glad you took this healthy opportunity to vent. It looks like you could use more venting though, and I think the best advice for you would be to see a doctor, therapist, or a trusted adult that you can talk to. If you feel comfortable talking to your dad about this, by all means do so. It seems like you may be dealing with some kind of anxiety issue, which could be triggered by your current living situation, and is seemingly leaving you upset.

    Meanwhile, here are some things that help me take my mind off of stressful situations: going online and surfing the internet and reading about things that interest you, rent some movies you've never seen before, read a long, thrilling mystery book. Good luck.


  3. Hi I tried to answer earlier and got disconnected from the internet. But this will be a shorter answer.

    Email me if you need to vent. I am 14 and have depression.

    i am really sorry

    *HUG*

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