How can I get my son to potty train at all times?

Question

I have a 3 1/2 year old getting ready for preschool this year. He will be four in November. He knows how to go potty and knows he has to. However, he refuses to. Every time I get him on the potty, he sits there forever, and when he gets off the potty, a few minutes later, he urinates all over the floor or in his pants. He also does this with a bowel movement. I have done the potty charts, rewards, wet underwear, etc, but I am now at my witt's end and I can't tollerate this much more. My family is harrassing me about him not being on the potty and that "I'm not doing enough" to get him to go. Any other ideas? I have told him that he can go to Chuck E Cheese if he goes the potty and fills out the potty chart I made for him. Any other ideas?

Thank you so much for any imput.

Answer 1

well im 12 and my brother is 3 so he just learned about 2 months ago and how my mom did it was every time she felt that he needed to go she asked him and when he gave her an answer  

she would take him to his potty or the bathroom and tell him what he needed to do then i guess he got the hang of it and start doing it him self sometimes he would go when he really didnt need to.....hope that helped or gave you a clue of something to do

Answer 2

it sounds to me like he is doing this kind of behaviour on purpose to get your attention , many times kids will do bad thing to get the attention of there parents . I know this may sound strange but in many cases it is true . The only thing that I can think of off the top of my head is to pay more attention to him on other ocasions and less when he messes himself.

Answer 3

I had a very stubborn son that didn't want to learn either but with time he finally got the hang of it.  First off, are you sure he is ready?  Does he wake up wet? If so, he is not ready.  Second, is he uncomfortable when he goes?  I had to literally not put my son in pull-ups ever because he would pee just enough to convince he had gone and couldn't anymore then I would put him in a pull up for training and then he would go everywhere. It wasn't until I took away the pull-ups and let him pee all over the floor and in public and went through on the average of 10-12 underwear a day, that he didn't like the feeling. Btw, that lasted about 2 weeks and major amounts of cleaning and laundry.   I started over again from scratch,  Putting him on the potty every 15 minutes.  Praising him like crazy when he would pee and would cup my hands to my ears and say "can I hear it?"  Finally after 15 minutes every day for three weeks, we had no more accidents.  I slowly started going to 20 minutes then 25 minutes, etc.  He got 5 Skittles every time he pottied and 8 for poppy.  It was so hard and I was so tempted to retreat and put him back in diapers,  but you have to be the strong one.  

Good luck!

Answer 4

wow... not too sure what else can be done but do not let him off the potty until he does go #1 and/or 2.

Answer 5

You are doing everything you can. Family is always the worst for voicing unnecessary opinions. Children's bladders and potty habits develop at their own rates. Stay vigilant and patient and in time, he will do this all on his own.

Answer 6

http://www.pottytrainingconcepts.com/Pot... good luck

Answer 7

Some children (usually boys) are not physically ready to be totally trained at that age.

I suggest you "lighten up" a bit. Don't let your stress/dismay show.  Continue with the rewards for doing it "right", but don't punish (other than making him wear soiled diaper) for mistakes. Ignore comments from others.  They don't have any more knowledge/experience than you.  If it gets real bad, tell them it is not their probem.

I also suggest you not promise rewards for "doing it right".  It is entirely possible thathe can't at this time.

Hang in there and DON"T let anyone tell you how to do things unless they have PhD in Child Care.