How can I get my teens to date people their own age !!!!?

Question

My kids seem to have switched up dating people their own age

My 15 yr old daughetr is dating a 18 yr old guy

And my 18 yr old son is dating a 15 yr old girl

How can I get them to date people their own age ?

Answer 1

i dont think theres much you can do becuase like someone has already said if you tell them not to date them theres just going to sneak off and do it.

all you can do is sit them both down and stress how big of a deal it is if they become sexually active with them especially your some you dont want to see him go to jail and you dont want to see your daughter get pregnant and left or have her boyfriend end up in jail for stagitory rape. and have to raise a child on her own.  

Answer 2

well im 15 and i like older (like 16 -18 year old) guys. its just that most girls like guys that are more mature. the boys in my grade still act like morons. and its the same for your son, but the girl liked him because of his maturity

Answer 3

Explain statutory rape to your son.  Make sure he knows he can end up in jail for a few moments of stupidity.

Forbid your daughter.  She is under age and lives in your home.  You still decide.

Answer 4

hmm in all honestly it not really that you can force them to date ppl their own age they are going to see who they want but you might try incentives to get them to see ppl their own age, but it is a proven fact that men are attracted to younger women and women are attracted to older men. but thas a very hard case to break bc i dont know what kind of ppl your kids are seeing

Answer 5

just leave them the **** alone, if they're happy why should it matter? maybe one day they'll realize it's not right for them and they'll learn from their mistakes, don't force them out of the relationship and into another they'll just end up hating you.

Answer 6

Well what they're doing is illegal. By law, you can tell your 15 year old daughters boyfriend to stay away.

Answer 7

That is their own age... come back to me with this question when your girl starts trying to hookup with 25 yr olds.

Answer 8

Quit freaking out about it. It's only a three year age difference. It'd be one thing if they were dating people in their 40s or 50s, but remember, in 20 years, they'll be 35 and 38. The idea that teens have to date someone their exact year of birth is pure c**p. How often when people get married were they of the same graduating class? Rarely. Unless you're setting up toddler playmates, a three year age difference is not only okay, it's normal. They are pretty much the same age as their dates. Just be happy your daughter isn't dating some creepy 50 year old man and that your son isn't dating some girl in sixth grade. Once something disturbing like that happens, THEN you can ask the question and not look silly.

BTW, to all the morons saying it's "illegal" or "statuatory rape", almost all 50 states set the age of consent between 15 and 16 and allow for a four to six year age gap between the partners before it's considered illegal. The only state that's weird about that is California (who strangely is okay with the freakiest sexual acts between "minors").

Answer 9

thats wierd

Answer 10

What state are you in?

It may or may not be OK depending on the state

In my state, New Jersey, it is OK as long as they are within four years of each other

your 15 year-old daughter can date up to 19

your 18 year-old son can date down to 14

and still be legal

In all of Canada, there is a five-year allowance

15 can date up to 20

18  can date down to 14

Answer 11

Ever consider maybe they're happy with the people they're already dating? Leave them alone.

Answer 12

They won't listten to you.

Guys like younger girls. because the girls are so cuter, and they aren't just into partys.

Girls like older guys becuase they are maturer.

Answer 13

Are they dating each other? LOL kidding.

Talk to HER about why it bothers you.

He is of legal age.

Unless he lives under your roof.

Answer 14

Well,

It is indeed true that girls mature way faster than guys, so it is completely normal for your 15 year old daughter to want to date an 18 year old.

She probably feels that he is on the same level as her.

As for your 18 year old son dating a 15 year old girl, its the same way around sort of.

Then again, it differs because some older guys date younger girls because they feel like they can control them better than a girl their same age.

You just have to talk to them about it.

Feel them out.

See exactly where their heads are out, and make sure that your daughter is not being taken advantage of, also make sure that your son isn't taking advantage of girls younger than him.

The best way to figure this out is to invite them over for dinner or something, and in a private moment when they don't think you are listening, listen to how your daughter's boyfriend talks to her, and listen to how your son's girlfriend talks to his girlfriend.

If something doesn't seem right, nip it in the butt immediately.

I hope that everything works out in your favor.

God Bless

Answer 15

i dont think there is anyway to get them to change who they are dating forbid them to see that person and they will just sneak off and you wont know what they are doing... try to embrace it, it is weird but you probably want to be in the loop then out of it

Answer 16

i think girls usually date older guys cuz girls mature a couple years faster so if they date someone a little older the guys are at their maturinty level!  

Answer 17

age is just a number.

whats the big deal..?

Answer 18

well, it's illegal.

you could tell them that.

but you can't stop them from dating. someone thats 17.

it's okay.  

Answer 19

thats messed up. tell your daughter she cant date. thats what my parents tell me.

Answer 20

it because they are use to people around them. look your daughter had and older brother now she dates older men. you son had a younger sister so he dates younger woman.

and as a parent you should just give them facts about life and let them make their own choices, its their life. its not hurting them so just educate them on what they need to know and watch for their safety.

if you mess with their lives then you will lose them and only gain hate from them

Answer 21

hmmmmmm try to introduce them to people their own age, are you worried about your daughter? Because a 15 year old girl going out with an 18 year old seems quite worrying. Maybe try talking some sense into them.

Answer 22

Just let love take its course.

It probably won't last anyway.

At least they aren't doing hard drugs or getting pregnant. : /

Answer 23

isnt dating an 18 y/o illegal.