How can I get my urge for another baby to die down?

Question

I gave birth on the 22nd of Februrary this year; the pregnancy was riddled with pain and complications, and the birth was the most traumatic thing I've ever experienced as we both almost died. It took my fiancee and I 13 months to conceive and we were so glad we were able to have a baby naturally.

For the past month I've been getting the urge again to have a baby. I dismissed the feeling, thinking that it would go away, but it's effecting my everyday life. I can't stop thinking about it. I lay in bed dreaming about it.

But there's no way my fiancee and I are in a position to have another baby at the moment.

I've tried everything I can imagine. From spending every hour watching my daughter develop, to convincing myself this feeling will go away but it just won't.

I need some advice.

Answer 1

THIS MAY NOT HELP BUT TRY GOING TO facebook.com IT IS A COOL PLACE YOU CAN MAKE KIDS THERE U MAY LIKE IT 

Answer 2

Ive had those baby blues and baby woes...now that my baby is 21 months old...those baby woes and woos are GONE...If it were me I would wait a while, your new baby is only 4 months old, I wished i could give you my son at 21 months so you could see what toddlers are like, you would definatley change your mind lol

Answer 3

take the same amount of money you spent on your baby a week  and remember it gets more expensive, put it aside for a month see the effects on your life. can you afford to pay bills ETC. get half as much sleep as you are getting now. What changes happen to your personality? how are you coping? If as a couple you have long term goals such as buying a house how much longer will you be set back? If you have a job, how much extra will the childcare cost? if not do you mind if it takes longer to re enter the workforce? How do you think it will effect your relationship with your fiancee dose he help? what family support will you have if your children come down with say a cold one after the other and your worn out? what effect will it have on your current child will you miss moment in her life dividing your time? think about these things instead and if you want a child in the future figure out when - with your fiancee, then it should ease your mind having a time frame.  

On a separate note I almost bleed to death having my first child, and to ease your mind my second and third was relatively uncomplicated.

Answer 4

Have you shared those feelings with your fiance? If not, maybe it's a good place to start. He knows you best so I guess he might be able to get you through this...

Or maybe he feels it too and yous two will find a way to make it work. Have you talked to your doctor yet? Are you at risk of having another complicated pregnancy. If so, do you feel it's worth it?

In any case, best of luck with everything!

V.