How can I get over being a dull person to talk to?

Question

If I try to have a chat to practically anyone, it often gets quiet and I judge this is because I’m boring and dry with zero interesting things to share. I can’t manage talking to people any longer and I notice tons of people who make conversation look easy. It has developed into a nuisance because I can’t seem to prevent myself from getting worried and distressed on a daily basis over this. What can I do to quit getting distressed over this every d**n day? advice?

Answer 1

Read "how to win friends and influence people"! Go onto ebay and buy it now, seriously! It will change your life.

It basically tells you to find out what the other person is interested in and talk to them about that, asking lots of good questions. People enjoy talking about themselves. Just smile, be friendly and receptive, and love yourself. People are drawn to positive happy people.

Answer 2

Reinvent yourself with LSD... you'll have plenty to talk about  -or-  go see your doctor and talk about the benefits of antidepressants... xx

Answer 3

You need to stop thinking that you're a boring person to talk to, get that out of your mentallity and you'll stop feeling depress. Turn your 'can't to 'can' attitude. You just have to be yourself infront of people without the fear that you'll bore them with your questions or answers. Show an interest in people and share your experiences and thoughts aswell. Expand on questions or answers people give when they talk to you. Try looking at open-ended questions etc.

Hope that helps.

Answer 4

A conversation takes 2 people...maybe the other person is dull and boring!! If I come to a lull in a conversation I just say something funny to make them laugh. People love to laugh at other people's self-deprecating humor. If there's your conversation gets quiet, just say out loud...Wow, I sure am boring! The other person will probably laugh and y'all can talk about that! :-)

Answer 5

Most people love talking about themselves.  Just ask them questions about the things you know they like or that are going on in their lives and really pay attention or at least fake paying attention.  And act interested in them no matter if it's sports or their pets or kids their hair whatever.  

Answer 6

I'm sure you aren't boring at all!  I have never met a boring person, I've met people with interests that I just don't get, but that doesn't make them boring - just means I'm not as smart as I like to think I am!

Please just try again, go and chat to someone, find a common interest and go from there.  Good luck.

Answer 7

Find a passion, something you will be excited to talk about.  I'm passionate about my job, and people seem to find it interesting to talk to me about it.  It doesn't have to be your job, it could be a hobby, favorite author, etc.

Answer 8

I'm the same. I wouldn't worry about it pal, some people can naturally chat (i.e. talk about nothing consequential) and others can't. Perhaps you should find a hobby or a girlfriend, to give you something to talk about/ someone who'll want to talk to you.

Answer 9

Don't ask such boring questions...