How can I get over my Social Phobia?

Question

As a 29 year old woman, I always suffered from social phobia. and it's funny with me because i enjoy walking through a crowd of people, but if they tell me something, even nice, it makes me think they're being mean! even though i know they're not. when it comes to a party it's the worst. I start getting nervous and anxious and all i wanna do is to leave right away. It feels so insecure and empty. i mean i feel like the whole place around me is a hollow space and i have no place to lean on and i might fall from my chair into the space!!! Making eye contact is SO hard even though i try to make it anyway. I get intimidated with pretty girls or handsome guys. I don't really like taking drugs for these sort of problems but if you think i have to i sure will. The fact that i lived with my parents for a long time makes it harder for me to treat and now that i have my own life it's kinda late to deal with it. I really appreciate all the answers and the time you take to read my problem! Thank you:)

Answer 1

Try with small steps

First speak positively. Say you are an outgoing person who has an easy time dealing with people. Say this in front of a mirror 10 times each day. Even if you don't believe it

Then, join a public speaking class like Toastmasters. You will get used to people staring and talking at  you.

Then, have the courage to say hi to one person each day. Like an old person, or another lady. Just say hi and move on.

Answer 2

as emtd65 said you should go to a therapist but you should also help yourself to get rid of that phobia

you should trust people around you, make new friends,

be with other people, go out with your friends. just try and you will succeed. tell yourself that no one can harm you, don't care about your fearings try to beat fear

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Answer 3

the medications dont really help for social phobia. i have taken numerous drugs for it, and at most it just calms you down so your not so ancy kinda. the best thing is to just stay away from crowds of people kinda. were here to help you if u need it :) sorry im not much more help.

Answer 4

it is never too late to become mature...

Answer 5

Begin with your primary doctor who should refer you to a therapist. Therapy along with medication (which is a tool not a cure) will help. Many people experience this and seek help. Just be sure to combine both therapy and meds.