How can I get over the emptiness that still plagues me due to an emotionally and verbally abusive mother who is now deceased.?

Answer 1

I am personally trying to deal with an emotionally abusive older brother but, I feel that having had an emotionally abusive mother is a whole other ball-game. The maternal is an important element in everyone's life and I am sorry that you had to miss out on that because of her actions. Please don't give up. You have to realize that she likely abused you because she was abused and knew no better. It may sound like no excuse...I know...but even if she was alive she may not be able to put into words why she did this to you. I bet she thought about it but she was so angry with herself that she didn't want to remind you of how badly she hurt you...she didn't want to remind herself of how badly she was probably hurt. You have to take care of yourself and be loved by those around you; join a women's social group and find someone to befriend who is older and who perhaps can be a guiding light. Don't feel bad about wanting to replace her, that's not what this is...just think of all the people who do want the best for you. Your future or current children will thank you for being so attentive and mindful that that will be a gift in and of itself; you future or present boyfriend or girlfriend will appreciate your respect and loving kindness. First though you have to respect yourself enough to keep a part of it in your heart but devote 80 percent of your heart and actions to living a full and inspired life. Watch Wayne Dyer videos on youtube...you won't regret it.