How can I get over the feeling of Ugly?

Question

So, this week, I've had 4 people call me ugly already, which sucks because I think I can see why they call me that. I mean, I think I got a big nose, bad skin and just a weird shaped face. I don't wanna prove them right, but I mean, people say to look at the positives of yourself, but I see nothing positive in my appearance. Plus I've always been single. All my friends are female, yet I remain single, just a shoulder to cry on. I always get superficial responses on why I'm not "datable", not to my face, which makes it worse. I hate the feeling of ugly, and the fact that I'm still single, have no close friends, and that i don't like my appearance. Am I as ugly as I seem? How can I get over this feeling? I hate this feeling and I've felt it for a long time? Is it normal to feel this way? How can I get out of this slump? Is there a way I can improve my appearance???

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P.S. Due to reporters and dumb Yahoo staff, this is in no way chatting or violating any rules and is a perfectly valid question that serves a purpose/ importance...

Answer 1

well your nose isnt

big and your eyes

are very pretty plus

you dont look ugly

to me and your pretty

datable if you ask me

Answer 2

Dude, you look fine. Its just you.

I think peole see YOU, not just your face, your body, not just your physical attributes. They see you as a whole person. You must think that you are ugly because you are not datable, but maybe its not your face, nor your body that's not beautiful about you. Maybe you're not funny enough, not smart enough, or more obviously, not confident enough.

The way you project and carry yourself affect much about how people perceive you. So maybe you need to work on your personality. You are good-lloking, but I think you've got no confidence at all. And that's a turn off.

Answer 3

You're young yet. Ever seen the grad photos of some of the male movie stars? They look real dorky! But look at where they are now! Dames falling all over themselves and creaming in their panties just to touch!

Answer 4

*sigh* my heart breaks...

Justin, you are not ugly and you need to understand that it doesnt matter what other people say, its not important.  I think the problem is with your low self-esteem which leads you to believe all the c**p these morons say to you.

I'm not saying its easy coz I've felt the same way except I feel so ugly and fat yet people get mad at me when they hear it coz its the opposite.  I have low self-esteem and no matter how pretty I am or how skinny, I will always feel horrible about myself coz i dont believe in myself sometimes.  It takes time to get over i guess, but I've learnt that noone has the right to critise as noone is perfect...NOONE!

You will attract the females if you shed the esteem issues, believe in yourself, concentrate on a great personality and be confident about who you are.  Your looks are just fine and there is no issue.  

Answer 5

I'm not sure of your exact age, but being a teenager is definitely hard. Being a young adult comes with many insecurities. You are not ugly! The main thing that you have to work on is your inner self and your self esteem. Try using affirmations (yea a little corny, but they work) and also avoid asking people what they think about you. That is the number one way to feel worse about yourself. You have to believe that you look good and that there are people out there that look and act a lot worse. Work on your personality and trust me when i say a little confidence goes a long way. Girls love a guy that is secure about himself and is satisfied. It is a hard stage you are going through but it won't last forever. Pick yourself up and love yourself!

Answer 6

Ignore people like that. You're normal looking. How old are you? 16 maybe?? It's perfectly normal A) for people your age to be so cruel as to judge each other by their looks, and B) for you to feel the way you do. At that age, we ALL question our appearances and how beautiful we are. Your nose is not big, in the least. It's the perfect size for your face. And you have gorgeous eyes. I see a sensitive soul who worries too much about what other people think of him. You worry that they're right. Who else in your life has told you that, sweetie? Or made you feel that way? They're wrong, all of them. Stop listening to them.

How to get over it? Find different friends and try to remember htat the people who tell you you're ugly are the ones who are trying to put you down to make *themselves* feel better. It has nothing to do with you at all. You're just the scapegoat unfortunately. And remember as well that they girls who are swooning over you are the ones you don't see. ;)

Seriously. There is nothing wrong with you. I'd have dated you when I was your age (if you know how I mean that, that isn't meant to sound creepy).  

Answer 7

don't let them get to you I'm not g*y dude but your pictures Ain't bad usally when they put you down is because they fell insecure probley  

Answer 8

you're not ugly. you're actually pretty good looking with really nice eyes.

Answer 9

I'm ugly, single, and also have no close friends nearby.  Well, i do have some friends at work, but no one ever calls or visits outside of work.  I'll spend an entire weekend with the phone not ringing ONCE.  Anyway, I saw your picture, and you are NOT ugly in the least.  Have you seen those makeovers on TV?  They work wonders.  But to me, you look fine just the way you are.

Answer 10

They are wrong and Jealous you look great like a young Michael Buble.You look just fine to me I am sorry there are Cruel people

that make you feel this way.Some people were teasing my son

because he had acne last year I bought he pro active when he started school today he had so much more self esteem.

He worked out all summer as well.

Answer 11

dude, ur ok! stop putting urself down

Answer 12

You are absolutely not ugly.  I think you're cute, and you look so sweet.  School years are rough....period.  Everyone is insecure in those years, whether they show it or not.  I promise it gets much easier.  People do actually grow up at some point, and they stop trying to raise themselves up by putting others down.  If someone insults your looks, think of something positive to say, in a joking way, like "well, I might be ugly, but I can _______", just to have a sense of humor about the insults.  People will think that's a cool way to handle it.  High school years have a way of really messing with your head.  I'm 37, and looking back, it seems to have been such a waste worrying so much.  There is a girl for you out there, and you will find her.  It's actually better later, because the ones in the high school years usually end up being heartbreaks anyway.  Trust me, I know.  Be yourself, and be proud of it.  Maybe working out will improve your outlook on yourself, because it is a way to release feel good chemicals in your brain that make you feel better mentally.  Chin up :)

Answer 13

I think you look fine not ugly not extremely hot but you are NOT ugly

People that say that should shut up

and you should like yourself for who you are inside. and quit worrying about what everyone else is saying

so just go out there and have fun so that people can see you for who you really are and not for someone who is always worring about what others think