How can I get people to stop disrespecting me?

Question

I am not happy with the way school is going for me. Lots of people target me for insults. Mainly because I have red hair and freckles. Anything I say in defense of myself is usually laughed at, increasing my ridicule. I could talk to a teacher or parent, but when your in middle school that kind of solution is usually good in the short term, but will hurt you later. I have the ability to kick the **** of out anyone, but I don't fight unless it's physical self defense. I can't hurt anyone unless they do first, but none of the ******* at my school will do that. Anyway, I really need a good way to get someone to hit me, or a really good insult. Any ideas?

Answer 1

Darren,

First of all you are a beautifulperson.  Be the stronger of the group and ignore them.  and the more you ignore them, they will leave you alone.  a bigger man walks away!!!

Answer 2

Ignore them.

No seriously ignore them. If they say something towards you and you ignore it they WILL get pissed off (or they'll respect you a little more). Pretend like they don't exist because they ARE looking for attention. Trust me :P

Make sure to pretend like it's not getting to you too.

Answer 3

The truth is is that this happens to almost every kid in middle school or high school, there really is no way of avoiding it. But you could just ignore it, don't feed these peoples fires with a comeback, they'll just come up with a way to insult you further. It really is petty and you'll eventually come out on top if you act mature about it and don't let it bother you. Try to focus on your school work, and friends. If you don't have friends, getting into and after school activity is a great way to make some. I used to be picked on alot too, but soon enough I made a c**p load of friends just by going to drama and watching all the kids practice for the play. And don't worry about the labels, if you are worried about that. When you get a bit older, you'll realize that labels stop showing up so much. Again, this stuff is all petty, and everyone has to get through it  (:

Answer 4

What can I say? It sucks being a high school kid. Just keep it in the back of your mind that the same childish morons who ridiculed you in HS will someday be working for you when you are grown up and successful.

Answer 5

look either they think you are ugly or you are super hot and they are jealous cause they don't look like you....ignore them!it always works!go along with it....get them back......revenge might not be the right thing but what can you do if they always bother you!

There are a lot of hot guys out there with red hair!

(dave mustaine)

Answer 6

The best way to get respect is to be respectful, If you learn to laugh at yourself it will not matter when others due.

If your looking for a fight just keep doing what your doing, but that will not get you friends.

lighten up learn to roll with the punches and you will have more fun more friends and you always look better with a smile on your face. Good Luck.

Answer 7

"Well, if my IQ was as low as yours, I'd be worried."

    " When I see you, I know why my parents give to Planned Parenthood."

     "Tell me. Are you potty trained yet?"

     " You know, I was taught it was better to keep silent and be thought a fool, than to open my mouth and prove it."

       " It must be awful for you to be so shallow."

         NEVER LET THE SMALL PEOPLE DETERMINE YOUR WORTH.

Answer 8

I, too, have red hair and freckles and was disrespected in school, but I chose a much better way of getting even then violence. I would try to find out what their fear was, and like this one group of cheerleaders were always calling me weirdo, or freak so one day I put  snakes in 2 of their bookbags during gym class. Oh what fun!!!Another time I sent anonymous letters in the mail to this one chick saying how I was watching her and waiting for the right moment and just enough to really make her paranoid before she called the cops. Be creatively revengeful!

Answer 9

Its not what you are called...its what you answer to.  Those kids are the ones with low self-worth....what is you self-worth?

Being angry gives the fool the upper hand, so be cool and don't let anybody see you sweat.  You will always be talked about.....black, hispanic, white, asin, short, tall,dumb, smart, red hair or freckles.   You freckles and red hair is beautifull and unique future that not alot of people share.  Be proud! Some times ppl get jelous or they do you wrong because they want the pure joy of seeing you fail and sweat while doing it.

You best defense..........A smile....try it!

Answer 10

You seem smart enough to know the real reason has nothing to do with the color of your hair or that you have a few freckles.  Find the reason- ask your closest friends or whom you respect.  They can see you better than you can see yourself.  

Then ask for advise, reasoning with them in a rational way and showing them they are just immature is often the best way.  They will often just be silent, but be smarter than them- show them they are the child, make them feel stupid.

If you need get private counseling.  Your friends are often great counselors.

However you may find that you should also change that real reason for harassing you- if it is really a fault.

You will be OK, talk with your closest friends or whom you respect.  You seem smart enough.

Answer 11

They say the best revenge is living well.