How can I get support if I have no money & must get out of a verbally & emotionally abusive situation?

Question

I am unable to find or keep work in my field, due to my inability to handle stress right now. I have been in continuous counseling for 3 years. I was doing much better, but the constant verbal abuse from my father that I live with, is driving me to want to leave, permanently. If I ever do get out, I will never associate with him again. I am very upset, stay in tears. I planned to go live in my car somewhere that no one could find me. I have $50 to my name. Any ideas?

Answer 1

You said that you can't find work in your field, but what about work that is not in your field? Your inability to handle stress suggests that you might just temporarily find a job that is less stressful to at least make some money.

Does you Father charge you rent? Are you living there for free?

As I see it, you have 2 choices.

Choice number one:  For now, keep living with your Dad and stay out of his hair.  Only come home to sleep there and do your laundry and shower. Spend the rest of the day working or looking for a job.

If your Dad starts to pick on you while you are there, you could tell him that his rude comments hurt your feelings or you could just leave the room or stand there and quietly take it while you know in your head that you will be out of there in a couple of months. Your therapist should be giving you ways to deal with your Dad too.

Choice number 2: If your situation is so bad that you want out immediately, ask some friends or your church pastor for a place to stay. Here's the problem with this though: Even your best friend that will let you sleep on her/his couch will start to get uncomfortable with having you around all the time and using up food, electricity, etc without making a 'contribution' of some kind. So, basically, you will need to pay rent in some fashion.  Either way, you're gonna have to get better at dealing with stress and learning how to set boundaries and stand up for yourself.

There is a saying, "Don't pray for an easy life, pray to be a strong person"

PS I can relate to having difficulty confronting one's own Father. It's a big deal and not easy to do.  Talk with your therapist about this.

Good luck!

Yam King

Answer 2

You may not like this idea.....but find a good Christian church...They will do everything they can to help you.....just to eliminate confusion....i advise that you go to a baptist church