How can I handle a sociopath who for the past 15 years is trying to "destroy" my life? ?

Question

believe me lol, i've tried to avoid her like the plague but she follows me. she has single handedly tarnished my reputation, alienated family members and friends away from me. is it safe to confront a sociopath? i hear they are afraid of being exposed but how can i do that?

Answer 1

Just get away from her. Cut contact and hide. Get a restraining order if you have to.  

Answer 2

First off, it is extremely doubtful that she's a sociopath.

There is obviously some nasty history between you two that you're not sharing. I'm not saying her actions are a reasonable response or that it's your fault because I don't know what she's responding to, but there's obviously a reason behind her actions.

She seems like she's attempting to get back at you for something (real or imagined), even some score, that kind of thing. Basically what I'm getting at is there is emotion driving her actions.

That's not how sociopaths work.

Sociopaths do not form or experience emotional bonds, attachments, or connections with other people, so it's virtually impossible for them to have an emotion-driven grudge.

It's not that sociopaths don't have emotions, it's that this kind of prolonged attempt at "destroying your life" would only happen if she was having a negative emotional reaction towards you. To have that she would have had to first have a positive or neutral emotional reaction to you for it to turn negative. So it's doubtful she's a sociopath if she's having those kinds of reactions.

As for your actual question, confronting a sociopath is no different than confronting anybody else. Some would react negatively if confronted, while others would not. The only person who can make an educated guess at how she'd respond is you... though I would think if this conflict has gone on for 15 years confronting her wont change anything.

Your best course of action is to take the legal route:

If she is following you get a restraining order. Call the cops when she breaks it.

If she is tarnishing your reputation, go after her for defamation.

Any time she pops up in your life, make sure she is forced out by any legal means. That sounds like the only way it will stop.

Lastly, I think I should point out that sociopaths aren't afraid of being exposed. They are very careful with appearances, who they talk to, what they say, how they act, etc. If you were to attempt to expose one you would likely be unable to do so, because sociopaths are not the same person with everybody. They adopt a mask for every individual, so they can potentially appear to have a completely different personality than what you know. The other people who know her would have no reason to believe you, since the version of her they'd know would be nothing like your description.

She would then be able to turn things around on you, painting herself as the shocked victim that you're lashing out against. You'd likely just end up further alienating yourself, because you'd be trying to play the sociopath's game but they're a master at it.

Don't attempt the game. Go outside of the game to the referee. Take the legal route.

Answer 3

put a peacebond on her...lol move far away