How can I handle a teen bed-wetter

Question

My son is 13 and has been wetting the bed for two months, I took him to a doctor and he said that there was nothing wroung with him and could be a sign of different things, At first he cleaned his mess but now he just keeps it on and puts a towel over it, I told him i'd help clean his mess but he still wont help. Is there any good ways to get him to stay dry or help clean his mess up. Also how can I handle his sister who is 10, she makes fun of him everyday and tells his friends at school, I sat her down and talked but that didnt work so i grounded her and took all her stuf away and it still didnt help.

Answer 1

my question for you is if he just started doing this again for the first time sense he was little then I would be asking him what the problem is. Maybe something dromatic happened to him and he just hasn't opened up to you yet. I would talk to him. I think that he is just not cleaning it out of laziness and I would have him be grounded too. I think that you should stp him from having anything to drink before he goes to bed and make him go to the bathroom before going to sleep.

As for as your daughter goes and the hole teasing thing I would sit her down and tell her that people are picking on her brother for wetting the bed and she is making that happen ask her if she had a problem that was emarrissing would she want him to tell everyone about it. Think of something that she doesn't want everyone to know bad about her and ask her if she wants him to tell all of her friends about it and let him do it too. Then let her know that she is to not tell people at school personal business about her brother or your going to tell him stuff she doesn't want to know about her and then he can tell her friends.

Answer 2

Um... maybe he's always having nightmares. Maybe you should talk to this about him if hes having any and you really should've fixed that problem when he was still little... but Why not put like a sheet on the bed that is waterproof to not get the bed wet but.... maybe he should sleep witha diaper and get him embarassed and he'll learn his lesson?

Answer 3

Usually a bed wetter at that age is due to a problem in his environment, due to stress, anxiety, anger, being picked on, or in the worst case, to keep away someone who is molesting him.  I would encourage you to take him to a psychologists to find out what the problem is.  Until this is fixed just support him & talk him through it.  Explain to him that you understand and you are there for him.

As for his sister, keep reprimanding her for this sort of behavior. Don't let her go out with friends, etc.  And remind him to not pay attention to her.

Answer 4

Whatever you do, DON'T embarrass him, it will just make it worse.  I took my daughter to the doctor for the same thing, even though she wasn't quite that old, but there is some medication that can help him stop wetting the bed.  I don't remember the name of it, but you could probably Google it.  And as for his sister, she needs to be a little more conscientous of the fact that this might be something he can't help and nobody should be made fun of for something that is beyond their control.  She wouldn't make fun of a handicapped person, would she?