How can I handle my Major depression?

Question

wow...how do I start this? My best friend hates me...she is also my only friend...I have no one to talk to...I got depressed and my best friend left me once she found out...because she didn't want me to bring her down with me...some friend huh? I helped her through all her years of depression, and the moment I get down...she leaves.

I want to go to my local college this fall, and maybe make some new friends...but things are not working out for it...and my ex best friend will be going to the same college....if I don't go to college this fall, I will go in the spring and work all fall. I have no energy, no motivation, no inspiration, I am not eating...I am losing weight...I have no self esteem, I am really self conscious . I just hate everything...I am praying and reading my bible, but I feel so much anger at my best friend of 6 years betrayal! my best friend who left me in the cold and darkness when I needed her the most!

I don't know what I am going to do...I am not going to take medicine...that just causes more problems, I don't want to see a psychologist.

I just don't know what to do, I feel like I am stuck in this dark depressing hole and that I don't get joy or happiness in anything anymore, and I don't see it changing anytime soon.

I don't know if anyone can give me an answer...I am just desperate...I keep praying, but Jesus is taking his time in answering.

Answer 1

I'm no christian, or follower of anything, but I'm going to say, that praying in and of itself is worthless for getting rid of depression.  Trust me, I know; maybe it's even why I'm not much of a believer.  Random shot at the dark: maybe you're supposed to ask for the strength to endure, not the solution to the problem.

Anywho, onto greener pastures.  Exercise is a big help man.  Funny thing is it corrects probably 50% of the problems that face Americans today, and depression is one of those things.  Problem is most people are motivated enough to do it.  But hey, I guess it all depends on how seriously depressed you are, and how seriously you want to get rid of it.  I'll warn you though, if you take the lazy route, and just bear with the depression, you might as well take the pills, cause that's where all the people who don't want to DO anything end up anyway.

However, in light of the pill, they aren't so bad from what I hear.  You sound young, so the likelihood of anything serious happening when you take anti depressants is slim.  The drug market isn't a solid industry for no reason.  The stuff works, and for most people, it doesn't take on side effects.  Consult your doctor before you go that way though.  

As far as your friend goes, she kinda sounds like a *****, if what you say is true.  But I'm also going to tell you this, a friend should take into consideration the burden they place on others they care about.  Sure, a good friendship should endure depression on one end for a period of time, but it shouldn't be expected to last forever.  The other person has a life too.  Now if she was suffering from prolonged depression while you were taxed by it, then I'll tell you now, she was already kind of a lame friend.  Point of this paragraph, is to move on and don't look back.  Friends, like lovers come and go; she was but a stepping stone in your life, and now you've hopefully learned what to look out for.

I'm not sure of how spiritual you are, but meditation works some pretty cool wonders too.  It seems I'm a walking contradiction, I know.  

Additionally, put some perspective on your life maybe?  Every time you're feeling down, there's always someone who has it worse around.  

Finally, Cheer up mate.  I promise you, you're young.  Things will get rougher as you age, but you'll learn to enjoy what does come your way much more.  Eventually all of this will be but a joke, and you'll learn to not take everything so seriously.  I'm 22 and already starting to see this.

Good luck to you.

Answer 2

Be optimistic. Look forward to the future. Listen to happy music (Don't Worry, Be Happy by Bobby McFerrin). You might want to try making new friends, and maybe even trying to get a girlfriend. I'm sorry about your depression. I was depressed for several weeks because I really liked this girl, I went to the semi-formal with her, fell in love with her, and then found out that she didn't like me. That really got me down. The best of luck to you. :)

Answer 3

Here's proven natural remedies for any kind of depression once forever...

Ten ways to successfully get rid of depression.

1}Important defense mechanism has spinach, , beetroot lettuce with much lemon juice and olive oil.POWER BENEFIT: In depression your blood has tendency to be acidic. You need to try neutralize this situation What I said above has high nutritional value and alkalizing quality.

2} Blueberries. Fresh or frozen, not to mention it tastes absolutely delicious, two servings daily for two weeks. POWER BENEFIT: struggle against feeling of guilt and loss of interest in ordinary activities.

3} Carbohydrates, and vitamin B-complex supplement. Depression is a cruel killer that shape cyclic human hormonal reality into delicious desert. The more tryptophan enters your brain, the more serotonin will be produced to kill that killer. Get rich tryptophan eating banana, apple and kiwi. POWER BENEFIT : combat thoughts of suicide and irritability.

4} Get Omega 3. This makes sense physiologically since omega 3 works on neurotransmitter pathways in the brain. Also, omega 3 keeps the blood wessels of the brain free from blockages It also helps in boosting up the nerve cells to function at a higher level. Because omega 3 is found in Oceanus fish and eggs and if you want only fruits and vegetables then take omega 3 supplement.

5} Daily walking in the sun. It produces a brain chemical called dopamine which help maintain mental equilibrium But before you leave your home eat milk, yogurt or salmon,tomatoes,cucumber and /or broccoli.

6} Out, find a place where you can express your emotions aloud . For example cry if you feel inside like crying. This is an act of courage and in the same time, shows your progress. Immediately after this, it can't be less than a big happy moments.

7}Selenium,vitamin B 12, for the" feel-good " brain receptors. The take away from it is that you need eat brown rice,nuts,seeds and liver.

8} Drink a lots of mineral water with pH above from 7.4

9} Breakfast cereals .Don't forget it.

10} Breathing exercises on daily basis,the most powerful line to cure depression because a high need of brain for oxygen.

I hope I helped you a bit.

Answer 4

Well, i've always found that pills don't work. And even though you don't want too if you really want to fix this problem you might HAVE to go to counseling.

But another option could be to just date, go out, have some fun. Make some friends. Meet a good guy/girl, maybe they could help you.

Answer 5

I WOULD SUGGEST SEEING A PSYCHIATRIST , DERRRRRRRRRR