I'm 16 years old turning 17 next month.
My mom has always went to her friends and gossip about family problems and how bad she has it to make them feel sorry for her. They always end up beliving her because she exaggerates so much. She used to play mind games with my dad and he finally wised up to her. He then started playing them back to her. She couldnt handle it nomore and then somehow got her friends against him to where they all hated my dad. She told her friends a bunch of BS and they believed it. She ended up coming out feeling good.
I'm not innocent. When I was growing up, my dad had a heart attack and got CHF. Hes in poor health and is in the hospital every 1-2 months. This affected my emotions and me constantly worrying about him. This affected my schooling too. Then when I started hitting puberty my hormones were raging and I used to have temper tantrums. I used to break things and throw stuff. This happened for about 5 years. I have recently matured and my mind is changing and I no longer have anger issues. I havent thrown things or busted anything since I was 14 years old. But I dropped out of HS last year in 9th grade because I used to get bullied and I eventually got social anxiety from it. Even though I have never been diagnosed with it.
My dad went in Friday to have his defibrillator changed. Then on Saturday night my mom made it look like she was going to my aunts to give her some food that we wont eat. She asked me if I wanted to go and I said no. She asked if my brother wanted to go and he said yes and they went. When they got there, my mom ended up talking about the hospital and things and somehow mentioned my name. My mom starts bringing up all these things that have happened in the past and all about school and how I treat my dad. She exattured so much to the point to where my aunt was pissed off at me. My mom even started talking about my brother and then my aunt got pissed off at my brother a little bit. It was almost like a setup my mom had planned because after she left the hospital from visiting my dad, she told my dad she was leaving to come home and fix me and my brother something to eat. I waited until 9pm for her to come home and I called my dad and asked if he seen my mom. He called my aunts house and asked if she was gonna come home and fix dinner for me and my brother, and then my aunt says "god how old is he? Isnt he old enough to get off his *** and fix himself a sandwhich" you know, making me look like im lazy.
My aunt and mom used to never talk that much. But then her husband got sick and was in poor health just like my dad. But he was much more worse, he ended up passing away. But my mom and my aunt got really close. They gossip about everything, its to the point where if I wanted to talk to my aunt about what happened, she wont believe anything I say because my mom has me looking bad and like its all my fault because my dad always sticks up for me. She wants my dad to get mad at his own sister so she can prove a point that he always sticks up for me. I think shes jealous because she doesnt get the attention she wants so she tries to get family against each other just to feel good about herself from all the attention even though its negative.
When my brother told my dad and me what happened, I started crying because I couldnt believe she was trying to get my own aunt against me. My dad confronted my mother, and she started throwing up things about how I dropped out of school and just sit around the house. Putting the situation all on me making me look like its all my dads fault for me dropping out. As she was saying this, my dad told her to "stop playing her sick little evil mind games" As she was putting the blame on me and my dad she got pissed off because my dad wasnt believeing it and then she got up and started cursing him, calling him a "F****** B**s***d" and then she went in and asked my brother if he told my dad and me what they talked about lastnight at my aunts. Then she got all quiet and went outside and sat. She hasnt said a word since!
Is there a way I can handle this? I mean, shes done this for years according to my father. Is there something I can say or do to get her back? I cant explain my feelings or have a talk with her because she ends up throwing it in my face in an argument. Im getting to where I cant stand her. I'm starting to realize how nuts my mom is. My dad always used to tell me that she would tell everyone our family business and she would get all her friends against him and that she "loved doing it".
I cant talk to my aunt about this or say anthing because she has my aunt fooled so much!
For the schooling thing: I'm already planning on going to get my GED. I have already been talking to the counselor and shes going to talk to the principal at my previous school and other things. Then I will be going to GED classees probably. So as to why my mom was throwing it up about school is because she was guilty as h**l.
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