How can I handle this situation? Was he right or wrong?

Question

I had a boyfriend who was always known for being a wishy washy person and doesnt do anything he says he's gonna do. He claims that he is saved and accepted christ and I was very happy from him. A few days ago, he told me that he was definitely gonna come back home( he's been in Jackson,MS for over a year, so it was a long distance relationship), and that we was gonna get married at the justice peace, find ourselves a place, and told his mom great things about me,etc..

I even sent him money to pay back someone before he gets himself in trouble so he can come back. I accepted him back b/c I thought he has changed so much and things were going to get better for us, simply b/c I have went through h**l with him and suffered emotional and verbal abuse for him. All of the sudden, he calls me and tells me that God told him that we cant be together no more b/c he wants to do whats right and he's still married and so on. He had me thinking all this time that he was already divorced. He tells me now that there is more to the divorce and his wife dont wanna sign nothin, so thats why he decided to end it. The problem is that he led me on and told me all these good things about us and he was already a christian and then he tells me the total opposite a few days later. He has did this a few times to me, and was still messing around with me. Should I get upset b/c he led me on and got my hopes all up, or should I just get over it and not deal with him anymore? Does that means he's being a hypocrite? Is this all game if he did this before??

Answer 1

just drop him. he seems like a bad guy to be with in the beginning. if he is going through all this with his wife and has you on the side then he is going to do the same exact thing to you if you get married to him. there is plenty of fish in the sea. if you stay with him you will just get hurt even more.

Answer 2

It means he is using you and knew just how to get money from you and not have to pay it back. He knows what it takes to get you to do what he wants you to. Sounds like he is a professional liar. You need to stop all conversation and allowing yourself to think that you have a future with him. If he has abused you in the past, what makes you think he won;t in the future? Cut the ties and find someone who knows the difference between lying and the truth.

Answer 3

I think you'd be better off without him. Its always hard to let go... but i think once you get over him you'll be able to find someone who you can trust and will appreciate you. Would you really want to marry a man who lies to you? If hes lying BEFORE you get married, I doubt he wouldnt after! Hope all goes well for you hun!  

Answer 4

honey you need to leave him alone..and if he is so christian he should know GOD don't like ugly and what goes around comes around. he knew from the beginning that he was still married. if he really wanted to be with you then he would make it his business to make sure everything follows through with the divorce so you guys can be together. he knows what he's doing and the only reason he went on with it for so long is because you didn't look into it deep enough and believe everything he said. so he got what he could out of you now he's back with his wife. just leave him alone, move on and let God deal with him.

Answer 5

i am sorry that you feel this way.i believe that he was not being hypocritical and he did not really lie to you.when he said he became a christian, i believe it was really true because if it was untrue then he would have not told you the truth that he is still married.i guess he felt the conviction of the LORD to make things right for him and his wife and also to you.i also believe that he sincerely regrets hurting you and he does not want to hurt you more.have peace in your heart that what he did was right.he is just sparing you from further pain.i hope you'll find it in your heart to forgive him.i believe you will find someone who is really meant for you.GOD bless you.

Answer 6

he aint find God and aint lookin 4 him. he is an adulturous and a liar 2 commandments broken. he is living the devils life and taking advantage of u. u said its long distance. leave him there

Answer 7

ok well i think you should just get over him it is not worth your time  

Answer 8

Yes, he's being a hypocrite and probably needs a good knock to the head. If he was verbally and emotionally abusive, and a liar, then forget about him. Cut him off, if he wants to talk to you again, hang up on him, don't even let him get past hello. He's not worth your time, your energy, and certainly not worth you. So move on, to a real Christian guy who treats a girl like the princess she is and isn't a lying jerk.

Answer 9

sounds  like he makes a whole lot of excuses for himself purely so he doesn't need to take responsibility for his own actions, you don't deserve to be burdened with a man like this, find a decent one

Answer 10

As a guy, there is a good chance that everything he has told you is a lie.

Answer 11

You're the one who's wrong.

Answer 12

Let him go yeah get mad then let it go and leave him alone he is NO GOOD.

If he is still married she is probably going through the same thing or similar to what you are going through just let it go.

Go be happy.