How can I have a better personality?

Question

Not trying to sound conceited, but I was voted most beautiful girl in my grade & I'm also #1 in our class... but I can't stand my personality. I'm shy and it takes me forever to warm up to anyone. How do I become more outgoing and bubbly? I'm not quick witted like everyone else seems to be.. My whole family is quiet and I wish I wasn't like this because it's hard to make friends and I'll be going off to high school in a few weeks.. Is there any way I can change my personality or am I just cursed with my genes? Please help?

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Answer 1

I talk a lot of rubbish on this site, but I am 100% serious when I say study those 'how to pick up girls' books.  Try Real Social Dynamics or the Mystery Method.  These work on boosting your personality in all situations.

Answer 2

Well, there are really two questions here.  The first is all about how you feel about yourself, and the second is about how you relate to other people.

I suppose there are some traits that people shouldn't "stand" about themselves, like being a homicidal maniac, being a pedophile, that sort of thing.  Shyness doesn't really cut it as a horrible trait, when you really think about it all.  You won't exactly get a front row seat in h**l with that ticket, honey :)

So, why change your personality?  Or think you're cursed?  Why not just break down the social skills you want to learn, then find someone to teach you?  That way, you can keep your personality (which is probably wonderful) and not feel cursed.

Larry King wrote a book called "How to Talk to Anyone, Anytime, Anywhere" that I have found very helpful.  It would be a good start.

Answer 3

You can be whoever you want to be sweetheart. May I suggest acting classes? You may not be able to change your personality or just may, but I hear people that are quiet and shy do well in the acting field.

I think they teach you you how to break out of the box and be and learn to feel the part. There is nothing wrong with your personality, and there is nothing wrong in wanting to change something you don't like about yourself.

Seriously, look into acting classes or lessons to help you break out of your shell.

Answer 4

rewrite ur sentence into "how can i be a better person-ality?" the answer to refining ur character is wondering how can i be a better person instead of how can i have a better personality? remember that what u "can" do (first) allows what u will "have" later on. bottom line is that if u be a better person, the change of personality will come naturally.