How can I have a discreet work liason?

Question

I have been married for 12 years and I love my wife but there is no s*x. I've tried everything and will keep trying but in the meantime I'd like to explore alternatives to keep happy.

I work at a fortune 500 company HQ where there are about 3000 employees. I've been here 17 years, and as I get older and the company evolves, it seems there are more and more great looking women here. There are at least ten women that I see regularly who are extremely attractive to me and possibly in my ball park. Some are married, some are not, some i'm not sure.

What should I do or say to get hooked up with them? I need to discreetly test if they're interested, then actually get in action, then make sure nobody finds out, including other people at work and my wife.

**Please don't bother responding with moral gibberish. Only respond if you are legitimately trying to answer the question.**

Thanks.

Answer 1

No PregnantMommy He should be in the "I'm a big fat loser" section.



LMAO!!!

PS I hope these extremely attractive women shoot you down - LOSER

Answer 2

I have worked in corporate America for fortune 500 companies for my entire adult life, and work at a fortune 100 company now.  I can assure you that there is no such thing as a discreet office affair.  Eventually, someone, somewhere, somehow will find out and your secret will be known.  Your wife may or may not find out, but your professional reputation will certainly suffer.  If your marriage isn't worth consideration to you, at least consider whether it's worth risking a 17 year career before you do this.

Answer 3

Since you put it that way. If you have to ask maybe you shouldn't be doing it then. Besides trust me, what's done in the dark. Will come to light....

Answer 4

Just flirt with these women and see how they respond.

I work in a large company and there are many married men there and i flirt with them and a lot will flirt back and there are a few that i have hooked up with a few times.

Answer 5

Get a divorce.

Answer 6

Ugh.

Answer 7

You are a loser.  You are ruining your wife's life.  You will reap what you sow.  

Answer 8

divorce your wife , then you don't have to be discreet.  

Answer 9

You are in the WRONG section to ask this. Try the singles cetegory.  

Answer 10

I read your comment in another section so I kinda knew your back round when I read your question here....I dont condone cheating, however , i cant understand how your wife doenst have s*x w/ you for 12 years ???????

Isnt she worried that your not satisfied and will look else where? I mean have you two talked about this and have you told her that you are not satisfided and if shes not gonna have s*x w/ you, then what are you suppsoed to do? anyways if this has all been done and still nothing , and you still need an affair i agree w/ the others and wouldnt try at work, just in case word gets out...

if you wnat to stay w/ the wife, but are just seeking  asexual affir nothing emotonal, then try on line or ashley madison...its for married ppl!!

Answer 11

I agree with the others.  Don't have a work-related liaison.    Try on-line or other dating service.   Be upfront that you just want s*x.   That's all some women want, too.   If the woman gets emotionally involved, you're toast.   She can blow the whistle on you to your wife and company.   (I've seen it happen.)

Is a divorce so out of the question????   Then you'd be free to dip your wick anywhere you wanted. (Although work is still a bad idea.)  

Answer 12

You can't. It'll always come out.

Answer 13

You should ask the women directly.  Then go to motels during the middle of the day, like taking a long lunch.  By the way, extremely attractive women usually have way more attractive alternatives than you, so don't be surprised if they laugh in your face and/or charge you with sexual harassment. Especially make sure your boss doesn't find out - there might be a company policy against this and then good-bye Fortune 500 company, hello demotion or firing.  And you should make sure the woman is an unfeeling zombie.  If this other woman starts getting emotionally involved she will rat you out.  You should also choose someone with VERY low self esteem.  They are the kind who would be able to put up with someone like you who has nothing to offer but his d**k.  Also, someone who is very promiscuous might fit the bill, because they are not choosy.  Of course, then you would have to worry a little about STD's.  So don't try having s*x with your wife again or else you will get found out.  Have fun.

Answer 14

The problem in some places is that even if you do something to brighten someones day in a platonic way, it can be twisted into something that is not there by the other party. I  did that a long time ago, just being nice with a co-worker, next thing I knew she ended up with a severe case of the hots for me.  I thought something was up, I went with it cuz I liked the attention and ended up marrying her, but it did not work out.  Her boyfriend at the time was so possessive of her, that he did not want anyone talking to her and would leave messages on computers login screens to not talk to her.  So I think she was just lonely to talk to anyone.

I saw why after-wards, once she got her amourous groove thing started, well.... use your imagination...  

Answer 15

As someone who's husband had an affair with a coworker that DESTROYED our family and has left me scarred and depressed for life, let me just say that you really need to get your priorties straight. s*x is just s*x, this is your family you are talking about. Are you really so shallow that you would put your family and THEIR happiness on the line for a piece of ***?

here is my advice, either talk to her about your wants and needs and how you have considered an affair. Give HER a chance.

Next, go buy some p**n and get over yourself!

Answer 16

First thing, I wouldn't be looking at anyone that you work with for something like this. I'm sure that every woman there knows everything the other is doing. Word gets around.

Look at a different company or if you go away on business trips then try your luck there.