How can I have a less negative attitude?

Question

I'm 14, and I have a negative attitude.

My mom is always yelling at me for "being grumpy", and my parents think I have a negative attitude.

My mom kind of drives me insane.

She's acts like she's my little sister, or something.

She screams and shrieks when something startles her.

And she tells me how much she hates my sister, and I say that I don't want to hear about it and she'll say "WELL YOU COMPLAIN ABOUT HER TOO!"

She tells me to stop stressing about schoolwork, and then will tell me that I should be in 10th grade math instead of 8th and that I'm lazy and stupid.

I love my dad, but I just can't stand my mom and she always puts me in a bad mood.

Well I kind of rambled on for awhile there, but do you have any tips for being more positive?

Thanks.

Answer 1

tips.... stop listening to your mother

my adopted mother was like that one Minuit something positive and the next Minuit some thing negative, thinks is called skit-so-afective disorder .is she a Pisces?

1. "i am my self!! i am not you"

2.say  i am a positive person

3.write affirmations and leave them all over your room.

please dont judge your self ,according to your mother

find another older woman that has it together and use her as a [mentor-role model]

Answer 2

I feel sorry for you to have your Mum being crazy sometimes. She is causing your negativity. Can you tell your Dad that some other adults think your Mum needs therapy?

Maybe you can't cure her but you could go join some groups about emotional healing. Look in the classifieds in you local paper or ask in a health food shop or something. They are sometimes connected to those sort of people. You might find some kind of spiritual group or shop (like alternative bookshop) in your local area.

Even a yoga group. That is super positive. Anyone connected with good health and happiness.

Get a new life away from your family for a few hours a day with positive people. Even a church group.

There are heaps of books about positive thinking. The first I ever read, in my teens, was ' The Power of Positive thinking' by Norman Vincent Peale. Check the web and the local library for more. You could even just spend a lot of time in the library reading to get out of the negative home enviroment. Oh yeah, and being with nature helps you to wind down from the stress and be yourself or be introspective. It's free and healthy too. Like being at the beach or walking in the bush or sitting in a garden.

You could get some 'relaxation' music and play it really loud so it affects your Mum too.

I hope you find some really good positive friends for life to bring you out of this while you are still young.

Answer 3

It seems that you're mom is one of the main sources for your "grumpy" attitude. When someone else is in a bad mood and is around you alot, sooner or later your attitude will fall to that level, or somewhere similar at least.

Ignoring is out of the question...mothers just hate it when you ignore them. So dont do that!

And dont edge her on either. Maybe if you talked with her...next time she starts nagging on you, tell her off. Tell her you hate the way she treats you, you hate her disrespect, and your only what, 14? Tell her to smarten up, be a mother, and be supportive rather than bitchy.

Once she becomes a little more positive, you probably will too. If you still feel negative tho, try doing things that will help boost your confidence--enter contests, join a sports team or group. Get out of the house a bit more...go out in the sun and enjoy your day. As long as your doing something, your mind will be focused on something other than the ugly weather or any other turn offs that can make you feel really negative.

Hope this helps...dont worry i ramble on a lot too! tee hee :P

Answer 4

Doesn't it suck that we aren't born with an instruction manual?  And how can we learn to not be negative if that is what we see in the people around us?

Some ways I deal with bad moods are writing it all out, venting to friends, and physical activity like dancing, beating on a drum, chores, or walking.

Some ways I find serenity are by listing 5 things everyday that I am happy/grateful about, finding or planning things that I can look forward to (such as meeting a friend at the park , going to a concert etc)

My way of thinking can mess up my attitude.  If I expect things from people that they don't do, like expect mom to be a mom instead of act like a sister( which is the right thing to want but still not what is so) I set myself up to be pissed off.  If I accept this is how they are and expect it I have a better attitude, even if it isn't what I deserve.  

Sometimes if I smile it convinces me to be in a beter mood.

This is just my experience.  Good luck to you and I wish you serenity.

Answer 5

Try to talk to your dad a lot.  Tell him how you feel and what happens between you and your mother.  Maybe he can talk to her.

Answer 6

Well, I find that there are two things that help me: writing my thoughts down and expending some energy doing some physical recreation.  Both of them can serve as an outlet when life is just plain frustrating and you don't know what else to do.  Even something as simple as going for a walk is useful.

Answer 7

I have an annoying mom that tells me everything about her life i just laugh at her and try and stay away when i get so ANNOYED which makes me negative but she is your mom so you cant avoid her forever! so there isnt anything you can do but ignore it at least i dont know of anything!