How can I help her??

Question

I'm 16 & I'm a teachers assitant in a 5/6 class. I have a group of IEP students that i teach math to, but there"s one girl who is very difficult, I try to be very patient with her, but the fact that I'm not a REAL teachers gives her the idea that she can mistreat me. One minute, she's focused and doing her work, but the other minute she's upset and doesn't listen to a word I say. There are seven people in this group, and they all need attention, but I spend most of my time helping this girl out, even when she's being nasty.

What can I do to help this student? Should I be more firm wit her (I tried that, but then she got worse), or should I back off more (did that, & she starts to walk all over me).

Answer 1

well tell the real teacher!

Answer 2

I'm not shore what to make of these girl. I used to be a IEP student. I have ADHD and some anxiety problems. I remember the teachers i had very well.to be honest i didn't like a lot of them. They would always confuse me.Ask to many questions and explain things that would require you to really think about what they were saying and then get frustrated because they would talk a lot about something and not just answer the question without a big explanation then i would think i was stupid because i didn't get what they were saying and would start crying or get very mean the teacher because of my frustration. I'm actually very smart. And am now in regular classes. But still to this day i hate it when i ask a question and the person doesn't give me a state forward answer. The helper teachers(as they call them) would always do that or act really nice but in a annoying way and u new they were faking or mean and and not help me at all. It took me a long time to really no what the problem was when i didn't understand something so i don't expect this girl to really be able to grasp what the problem is either. Do you no what she has,u no (ADD/ADHA/Dyslexia) or something like that because the reason why shes in a IEP group is because she has the potential to do great academically. When you find out what she has do some research on it and try to talk to other people who have it as well and get their point of view. But then again she just might be a bad kid i don't no. Just try to not be overly nice and acted like a real person and make her feel like her is smart and don't just think she's another bad or simple kid. And just so u no from 1st grade to 6th were the worst years of my life. I'm in the 8th grade now and no longer reqire extra help :)

Answer 3

tell her that she needs to start paying attention. Be more firm with her she will be mad at first but then she will take you more seriously

Answer 4

As difficult as it may be for you, simply state the rules of your class and inforce 'em.

Answer 5

Well you need to make sure she understands that she NEEDS to listen to you. Ask the teacher how you should handle her!

Answer 6

Yeah be firm.

She'll rebel a little at first but then she'll realize it's not helping and she'll cooperate with you.

Good Luck!

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Answer 7

Speak to the real teachers about the rules and what the IEP students know about the rules in respect to following directions from the teachers assistants.

Then at the next session outline the rules to the whole group but state the Teacher has asked me to outline this information to your group. Also outline what the consequences are for those who breach the rules.

Write the rules up on the board or on a sheet of card which can be stuck to the wall each week so that there is a visual reminder of the rules.

Ensure that they all understand the rules - this can be done by asking them to repeat rules back.  

This way you are setting expectations but also telling the individual without singling her out that you know what the rules and that there are consequences that will be enforced.

Then if anyone breaks a rule you can implement a consequence if the issue is serious enough or you can point out "............... remember we discussed the rules and expectations for behaviour I dont want to have to report you to the teacher - please focus on your work/wait quietly whilst I help your fellow group member).

Be very firm and consistent with this. The girl will eventually learn and the others in the group will see what happens if they mess with you.

Answer 8

Be firm, don't back down.

When she sees that you're serious she'll eventually calm down, it'll take work though.

Answer 9

you should try ignoring her.it might help.hope it works