How can I help my 9yr old to stop from wetting the bed?

Question

My son has seen doctors who say that he'll grow out of it but he has grown outta the largest size pull-ups they have and they leak!!!! I am constantly washing his blankets and other bedding. I have tried everthing even waking him up through out the night and minimizing his liquid intake after 6 pm.Still he wets every night! What should i try next? Im exausted!

Answer 1

Get a reward system going! Tell him every morning he wakes with a dry bed and clothes, you will give him a quarter (or whatever fits your budget) and get a jar(or penny bank that you can see through) to put them in. He will see his money grow and trust me, it will be on his mind to stay dry. Somehow it works:)

Good luck!

Answer 2

use huggies sleep pants

Answer 3

It is his body that is to blame...not him.  There are alarms you can purchase that attach to his underpants at night and alert him to the wetness.  Don't give up.  My nephew was 11 before he stopped.  It is hard on the child, even harder than on you.

Answer 4

Postitve reinforcement can really only get you so far.  Assuming that your son is not happy about this situation either, giving him a condition (i.e. 1 month of dry nights earns you a new game) will only place more pressure and stress on him and the issue.  It's not a bad idea to reward him for dry nights, but i would not make that the basis for his treatment.  

Have you tried a sensor alarm?  It involves a special sensor (about the size of a pager) that he will clip to his pants and to special underpants and use along with a fluid proof under pad (saving you a bit of laundry).  The sensor goes off at the slightest bit of moisture and will wake him up to use the toilet.  This way he will get used to the sensation of a bladder that needs emptying and be able to train himself.  

here's a website:  http://www.bedwettingstore.com/index.htm

Answer 5

this is quite common, especially with boys, ask your doctor for a nasal spray that works wonders for bed wetting, its safe and effective, my son used it and we both finally slept through the night.  he was 10 when we tried this, i hear ya sister!

Answer 6

Try tell him to use the bathroom after each meal for 2 weeks then get himto use it before bed he stop in  about 5 weeks.

Answer 7

You need to find out why he does that first.  Go to different doctors until you find one that is willing to work with you until you find out the reason for it.

Answer 8

buy him goodnites.

Answer 9

Is his problem just laziness, or true incontinence? Some kids just don't want to get out of bed and try to find their way to the bathroom at night. Maybe putting a few nightlights in to aid in vision and speed his guidance to the bathroom?

Reward systems are a great way to teach him to wake up and go to the bathroom. Make it big rewards, too--like a trip to Chuck E Cheese's, the zoo, or a theme park. Maybe even a new bike or scooter! Kids love having motivation.

Answer 10

Clothes pin

Answer 11

every night make him go to the bathroom. if he doesnt have to have him stand by the toilet till he goes.

Answer 12

Positive re-enfrcement is good practise.

My daughter had trouble learning to control herself and we bought her a new bed and mattress, taking her with us to choose.

We obviously looked until her choice matched our budget but allowed her to "take ownership" of the bed buying process.

Once then new bed arrived we told her she could dream about going to the toilet when she needed to, and she would be able to wake up, go to the toilet and keep her new bed dry.

After a few nights of the regular routine - limited drinks after 6pm; toilet before story time and then us waking her before 11.30 to take her to the toilet again - she began to start waking up and taking herself to the toilet - the new bed stays dry now and she gets up through the night as she needs!

I would try also consider having some of his friends over for a sleep over first, just to see if peer pressure can help jog him along.

Sometimes children get used to a pattern of behaviour that involves the changing of sheets, as the parent has always been positive. They get stuck and the parent feels they cannot now start to bark unacceptance to their child.

Sometimes children have to know that some behavours are not accepted. It is better that he puts that realisation down to peer pressure than parent pressure - as rebellion is a war you don't want to fight!

I also hear that a 9v battery should do the trick, a small shock that only work when he wets the bed!

Good luck.

Answer 13

Okay sounds like you have tried just about everything. So you need to talk to a Doctor who will actually validate your frustrations instead of saying oh he'll grow out of it....but he won't grow out of the embarassment of being a bed wetter and it's probably holding him back from sleep overs etc. My 7 yr. old used to wet the bed every night, I mean he ruined hundreds of dollars of mattresses, sheets, pillows, that list goes on and on. So you need to get to a Doctor and tell them you want to put your son on something called DDAVP. It's a bed wetting medication that tricks your body into thinking it's dehydrated...just enough to help them retain what's in their bladder. It works wonders, my son hasn't wet the bed in ages. I know that putting your son on medication is hard, and you don't want to but think about the long term effect being a bed wetter is going to have on your son. His self esteem will suffer, but if you put him on this medication he can wake up dry and feeling WONDERFUL about himself. It doesn't matter that the pill is what made him not wet the bed, he will feel like he did it himself, and praise him as such. That is was him who didn't wet the bed, because he's growing up not because of the pill. You will see what a difference it makes in his every day life. And yes chances are he will grow out of bed wetting, but until then why not give him a hand up.

Answer 14

tell him to go before goin 2 bed

Answer 15

I understand that you're going through a hard time, and I'm sure washing all his bedding every day is exhausting. But, he will grow out of it. All I can suggest is setting an alarm clock half way through the night for him to get up and go to the washroom?

Answer 16

If there are no underlying medical problems, try leaving a light on for him or using night lights. He may be afraid of the dark and won't admit it. Just be patient.

Answer 17

Get him Goodnights underpants.........They fit weights up to 125 lbs It's something he's just going to have to outgrow...... bedwetting is common 1 in 9 kids wet there bed.he will stop soon dont woory i know someone who 12 and still is doing it. 5-7 millions childern wet there bed.  dont fell bad and have him drink after 6 pm it wont help much he will stop soon dont woory.

Answer 18

Get him Goodnights underpants.........They fit weights up to 80 or 100 lbs........It's something he's just going to have to outgrow......which he will do with time.  Don't make a huge deal out of it, or it could make the problem worse.

EDIT: About the medications that can help with bedwetting, there are actually studies coming out where children have had strokes or died from those medications and they are cautioning the use of them.

http://www.pharmagazette.com/2007/12/bed...

Answer 19

have u tried spanking ??? sometimes all it takes is a butt whooping i know it seems mean but sometimes u gotta do what u gotta do  is his father around ??? lots of isues could cause this