How can I help my GF, she has Borderline Personality Disorder?

Question

She has been in and out. It seems like she is backing out of our relationship because she knows she can't control herself. She turns from a sweet angel to a mean, hurting person. Ups and downs. uncontrollable compulsiveness, She says she has it when she's in her nice mode, and denies it when she's hateful. She is more this way with me it seems. She just don't see it all. She tells me she loves me when she's ok, but then hates me, despises me in a matter of 2 days.... No matter what I do. How do I convince her to get help? How can I help?

Answer 1

Tell her to pray and ask God to take out the evil that has possessed her...I know that sounds harsh, but in reality, this is what the problem it... There is nothing wrong with telling someone to pray to God to help someone with the demons within..unless you've been there, you shouldn't 'shame' someone else's advice...thanks just the same.

Answer 2

its sweet how much you care and she is lucky to have you. its also good that you want to help her. just be there for her and when she is ready she will seek help. you cant fix a mental illness until the person is ready otherwise they WILL relapse and go back into there old ways. with borderline personlaity disorder it cant be removed but can be taught to control and keep under a tight raign. the longer she has had this disorder for the harder it will be for her to get better but theres always a light at the end of the tunnel.

your really something special

xoxo

keep in there

Answer 3

Usually the people with this disorder tend to have unsteady relationships the rest of their lives- with the ones THEY love suffering the most. Perhaps you wil have to understand that this disorder is who she is and until she is medicated she will experience these same type symptoms that she can't help.....You know her....so when she is " up'' or feeling good just take her too see about tx and tell her it's only because you love her...Best of Luck!......remember that you can't suffer too just because somebody doesn't want to help themself.

Answer 4

This is not a joke nor do I mean it to be nasty.

Get away from her. If she doesn't want help, she wont get help.

You will get hurt, and more than once. she can actually ruin you. You need to get away from the entire situation.

And to all the people that are about to thumbs down me.

I know what I'm talking about. First wife was the same way, and she refused to even acknowledge she had a problem.