How can I help my boyfriend relax?

Question

My boyfriend works really crazy hours. For instance, he worked yesterday(wed) at 12:15 and then had to go strait to another job. He did not clock out until 2:30 this am. Then he had to be right back in at 2:15 this afternoon(Thurs) and he has to go strait from that job to another one at 6:15. I was trying to think of something I can do to relax him. I know people say massages and I've considered that. This is not meant to be anything inappropriate just something that will make him relax and wind down. Any help would be greatly appreciated.

Answer 1

Have s*x with him. Doesn't that make all boys relax?

Answer 2

Massages are always great and appreciated after a long day. If you want to do something besides that, try this: Surprise him on his lunch/dinner break with his favorite dish of food.  

Answer 3

My husband used to work like that when we got married.  I had to take extra time to make sure he ate properly because of his work schedule . Over the years I also learned that he needed extra minerals to help his body recover from body stress. He needs magnesium,calcium citrate/chelate and potassium to help his body recover. A good multi vitamin would also help him if it has selenium in it to help with fatigue.

Other than that he would probably like a foot rub and rubbing his scalp to put him to a relaxation mode quicker.  The feet and scalp are pressure points for all the internal organs and it will help his body naturally detox.

Answer 4

Is he asking to be relaxed? If not, it may be best to leave him alone. He might find your efforts to relax him to be worse than the "problem" that you see.

To further look at it from his point of view, if he agrees that he needs relaxation, ask him what relaxes him and then ask him how you can help. Don't force it on him - that might increase his tension. Ask him what he wants, and if you are capable, give it to him.

Please don't start with "you work too much." He might hear that as nagging, and he will record that as a negative about you that may lead to a blow-up or a break-up down the line.

Also, try to be honest with yourself about your concern for him. You could truly be concerned about his stress level. You could also be jealous of the time he spends at work and not with you. If it's the latter, be careful. You don't want to put him in the position of choosing between work and you, because he might choose the latter.

Having said that, if you determine he is a workaholic, you may have to accept that he will never change. If that is so, you may need to find a different guy.