My brother married about 13 years ago and moved overseas because of his wife's job. Almost immediately, he developed very bad Chronic fatigue syndrome, and a couple of years later his marriage fell apart, to some extent because of the CFS and partly because he started to follow a strongly spiritual path.
He still lives in the same city, alone, in a boarding house and lives on a sickness benefit. He spends most of his time sleeping, meditating, chanting mantras and/or when possible seeing various Gurus when they visit the city (eg. Swamiji, Sri Chinmoy).
He is very intelligent, compassionate and in reasonable physical health, but certainly not "happy", and is convinced that he must spiritually purify himself further and become closer to "God". He has very little contact with other people, and virtually the only contact with his family over 8 or so years has been by irregular phone calls and occasional letters. I visited him in 2003, but only could spend a few hours over a couple of days with him, and he wouldn't let me see where he's living.
I've been trying for years to get him to come back to Australia, so his family (especially our mother who is unwell) can see him, and help and support him, but he is convinced that he "can't" and that it isn't the spiritually "right" thing for him to do.
Should I just respect that he is living his own life; doing what he "has" to do, or can I do something more to help him?
Obviously, he's an adult, but I know from personal experience that depression does require outside help, and I have no doubt that he's suffering from depression as well.
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