How can I help my friend who is struggling to concieve? Especially need answers from women like her?

Question

She's tried for over a year...she's 35 this August....she always talks to me about it...sometimes in a lighthearted way and sometimes not so much....she has seen a doc but she and her husband never completed the tests as I think they are scared. I tried to tell her about cervical mucas and how it is really useful to know when you ovulate that way but she only half listens...thats how I conceived, so I am wary that I will look like a know it all if I go on about it. THeres a book I heard about on here called something like "Taking control of your fertility" has anyone heard of it and should I buy her that? Or should I keep out of it...I hate seeing her upset.

Answer 1

I would tell her how you concieved. Failing that then tell her to take a trip to Blackpool and go to Ripleys believe it or not. I believe there are other Ripleys. Please support her like you are doing. Tell her to take a holiday to relax and forget about concieving. She should have completed her tests as she may have been able to get all the help needed. I know someone who tried for 10 years I suggested this site and she was going to start fertility procedings. She concieved naturally with out going. Please tell her to go back to her G.P.

http://www.ripleysblackpool.com/fertilit...

Answer 2

Seriously!

You need to be very encouraging and try not to be telling her to relax and stuff.  Pray for her because this really messes with you mentally. Also here are some books that may help her. Hannah's Hope. And books by author Sandy Day you can go on amazon and get them for cheap.

God Bless

Answer 3

i would let her 'borrow' your books, read into them, show her www.fertilityfriend.com, its super easy to chart everything!! its great you are trying to be compassioinate!

i am tryin for #2, any tips?

Answer 4

yes get her that book and then she wont have to take anyone advice because her answers will be right in front of her i have that book and it is useful and you are a true friend also good luck

Answer 5

She obviously isn't that concerned or they would have had the tests at the doctors. If she isn't worried - you shouldn't be.

Answer 6

I've not got fertility problems as I've never tried to get pregnant but I did used to work as a PA to a fertility doctor and she really should complete the tests, even if she is scared.  Tell her to talk to the fertility consultant about it, they can support her and gently encourage her to carry on with the tests, only that way can she get the treatment she needs, it might just be the case of needed a little help with ovulation which means taken a tablet a few days a month or if she needs IVF or IUI it is available on the NHS depending where you live (ridiculous I know) and there are plenty of alternatives to try if they do find a problem.  However, if she doesn't have the tests done then they wont know what treatment she needs, it might be something really simple.

Tell her that it is worth carry on with the tests as I've seen plenty of couples see the consultant I worked for and end up pregnant after only a small amount of treatment

Answer 7

tell her to grow up and if she is serious complete the tests it pisses me off some ppl are desperate for somethin but wont follow nothing threw to achieve nothing shake her and make her realis the pressure she is putting on you and make her see its not fair for her to dump her problems on you when she cant be bothered to sot her own problems out i hope you get it sorted.

Answer 8

No disrespect to you but she don't need a woman's help it's a bloke she needs.

Answer 9

She and her husband need to complete the tests. There may be nothing wrong, but with the testing they would know for sure, and then could then make plans from there.

Some very simple things: have the husband wear boxer shorts - the testes need to be cooler than the rest of the body for successful sperm production. Also, tell them to stop worrying so much - sometimes the stress alone can inhibit conception. However, to be certain, they should see the doctor to find out what is REALLY going on - its the SMART thing to do.

Answer 10

I was having difficulty getting pregnant it took me 4 years, but after sometime I went to see a chinese herbalist and not long after i was pregnant and had a baby girl last november, It's quite pricey but natrual