How can I help myself to stop cussing?

Question

I have cussed for as long as I can remember. I am a lot better than I used to be. I am trying to stop. I still slip up but I dont want to anymore. How can I stop? Its like I do it without thinking!

Also, I live in a household with cussers! Like every other word is the f word. I have asked him to stop but that is a joke! He won't.

Answer 1

The is an ongoing process. When we are in the new system it will be easier. What helps me is to realize that God is with you at all times. If you could see Him you probably would not cuss. When we saw those things we are saying it in the presence of your Creator. Keep that thought and you will reduce your cussing.

Answer 2

This is what helped me.

And remember, it's an on-going process,

this putting on of this new personality.

1. I want to stop.

It's not pleasing to the God, that I have now come to know.

So YOU have to put forth a conscience effort, on your part.

(As I did) It does take time, I also,

came from a family of cussers!!! O boy, yes.

And 2. Put in the work.

Putting forth the conscience effort.

It does take time, to adjust.

But, before long, you'll hear it less and less out of your mouth.

And when and if you do...

you won't like hearing it coming out of your mouth.

this helps tremendously!!!

Also, it Never hurts, or hinders your progress,

to ask Jehovah to help / guide / assist you in becoming

more pleasing to Him. In your service to Him.

Choose your own words. xo

And lastly:

a girl-friend of mine once said to me,  

"Increase your vocabulary."

Cussing makes you sound ignorant.

Where you would have normally (in the past)

used a cuss word,

Replace it!

While you sit there at your 'puter,

try it, try it right now.

My hsbnd is not in the truth,

he cusses with some of the filthiest things

I've ever had the displeasure of hearing in my life.

And I've heard it!!

I have repeatedly, asked him,

to at least not do it around me

and the baby.

You can't get some1 else to stop.

Only, if he wants to, will he.

But, you can ask.

Besides, you want to, and look how hard it is to stop.

But it can be done.

Answer 3

Wanting to please Jehovah God and to be like Christ are proper motivations to get rid of bad habits.  But don't expect instant success.  And don't give up trying when you fail.  Jehovah knows all our weaknesses, and His spirit will help us if we continue to yield to it.

Obviously it was a problem for some anointed Christians as well, since James writes: "With it [the tongue], we bless Jehovah, even the Father, and yet with it we curse men who have come into existence 'in the likeness of God.' Out of the same mouth come forth blessing and cursing.  It is not proper, my brothers, for these things to go on occurring this way.  A fountain does not cause the sweet and the bitter to bubble out of the same opening, does it?" -- James 3:9-11

We can never accept the standards of the world, since the world has no standards.  Cursing (and other bad habits) is everywhere, and we are forced to "inhale" the bad air of this system of things as "second-hand smoke" even when we do not want to.

So it is a struggle, whatever our bad habits may be.  But it is a struggle that can be won when we realize that Jehovah loves us and appreciates it every time we put forth the effort to do the right thing.

Keep on keeping on.  And don't underestimate the power of earnest prayer.

Answer 4

Pick a phrase to say every time you use a word (words) you don't want to.

Something like -

That is silly

That is wrong

This is stupid

Every time you say a cuss word, repeat the chosen phrase out loud no matter where you are. And I mean no matter where.

You will find that a slightly silly and/or embarrassing phrase that will draw looks or attention to you will act as a restraint for you.

If you do this for about three weeks, the cussing will stop.

Depending on your relationship, you can try the "That is silly" phrase on the other person. Part of the problem with any habit is not knowing how often we say or do something. When you draw attention to yourself, it will impress how often this is happening.

Answer 5

You can't stop him saying cussing , all you have to pray for him and don't stop.

If you want to stop cussing it's best if you keep asking God to help you improve you.

It take times.

Answer 6

Find the biggest jar or container you can and sit down with your roommate and make a pact.  Every time either one of you uses bad language, you have to put in a dollar into the jar, or start it out slow with a quarter and increase it twenty-five cents every 6 months.  You will be surprised how find the jar will fill up.  If you want to be totally honest, get yourself a little notebook and every time you say something bad make a mark, then when you get home, add up all the marks and that is how much money you have to put into the jar.  You can use the money to throw a party for your friends.  If you want to keep track of each other, get two jars and every time you say something you put the money in your his jar and when he say a word, you get the money.  Good Luck.

Answer 7

you can't change him...but you can give disapproving looks.

and ask him each time to stop.

But you can pray and guard your own tongue.

Be careful to stay calm and mild tempered and you will not be tempted to strike back with awful words.

God will help you and bless you.

Answer 8

I have the same problem.  I cuss around my kids without even thinking because that's an old habit that's hard to break.  

I used to work for a large trucking company and my job was to train drivers on their paperwork, the "F" word was like if, and an the..

common, so common it had no meaning.  I hate it!

I don't say the "F" word anymore but I do say sh-- and da-- too often.

We have been in the truth for 12 years and it seems like in the beginning I was better, that I watched everything I said, especially around the friends and the elder that we studied with.

Now it seems like we're more comfortable and old habits just sorta slip out.  Not at the hall of course, but just in everyday life.

What I've done is try meditating on it.  

There was recently a talk that compared it to vomit.  I have tried to meditate on that image of what it would be like, to spew vomit all over my kids and friends.  Would I be embarrassed? Would I ashamed? especially if I actually stuck my finget down my throat and did it on purpose.  Cussing is optional. Ask yourself, would I be willing to vomit on my loved ones?  It's just as disgusting.

Our WT study today brought out qualities we can all improve on.  For me it is mildness of spirit.  When I get mad I tend to cuss,

I've tried to explain it to my kids (13 & 15) that I'm not proud of it and wish I would have never developed the habit.  

They slip up every now and then.  I don't freak out, it's just so common in our society.

Answer 9

I know this is lame, but get a jar

and put a dollar into it every time you

cuss. You can't take out any of the

money until you have stopped cussing.

Probably by that time you will have

saved a little bit of money to go have

some fun without cussing. :):).