How can I keep it civil between us?

Question

My mom and I argue about everything.

Friends

Clothes

Guys

School

My Job

Texting

The Internet

Whatever her POV is, mine is the exact opposite.

She doesn't like a few people I know. She hates most people I meet. She tries to make me be friends or date people she finds "appropriate".

She hates my clothes. I shope at AE, Hollister, A&F and she hates those stores, she constantly makes fun of my clothes.

Guys have to be a certain way or she talks smack about them to me.

School is a given. lol

If she thinks my job is stupid or a "teen" job, she b*tches about having to take me and ultimately makes me quit.

She thinks texting is the devil and is no way to communicate, she doesn't understand its how my friends and I talk.

She has all these rules about the internet, she says she has to be my friend on there so she can see my page and my friends to make sure I don't add people I shouldn't.

Im 18, 19 in 40-something days. I think I have most things under control.

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Answer 1

The best way to keep things civil is to listen to her. Find out the core motives for her feelings, and you may find she is right about some things. Though some of her grumbling can probably be written off as her not being in touch with modern times, most likely she has a better understanding of how things fit into the bigger picture. After all, she's been in your position before, and she may be trying to give you a heads up.

Answer 2

I don't even have to read this all...

You have to agree to disagree. Meet in the middle on things that matter. Like working and school.

this is just part of bing a child. Parents "know" whats best. You are over 18 so just agree to disagree. Take her advice and such but that dosn't mean you have to use it, like it. As long as you are in her house and such you just have to deal.

Answer 3

My only advice is this ... move out.  You're an adult now.  If you don't like your mom's ways then technically you don't have to be around them anymore.  Now, if you're still dependent on her for basic survival (eating, roof over your head, clothes) then I'd suggest keeping your mouth shut and just doing what she says.

I noticed you posted another question about cell phones.  You two might just have that "two queens cannot occupy the same castle" syndrom.  I'd move.

Answer 4

you guys should go to counceling