How can I keep my 5 year old from talking out of turn?

Question

I have a 5 year old daughter who just started kindergarten this year. I just had a parent-teacher conference this afternoon, and she's doing really well academically. However, she is having some major problems with talking out of turn and obeying the classroom rules.

She will talk while the teacher is talking, she disrupts others with her constant chatter during quiet time and always starts an argument when someone corrects her. She says that she knows and understands the rules but still continues this behavior daily, at home and at school. Both the teacher and myself need to constantly remind her of the same rules, over and over; day after day.

If anyone could give me some tips, that have actually worked for them personally it would be greatly appreciated. I've read many books and articles on this sort of behavior, and everything I've tried continues to fail.

Answer 1

with my son and his 5 year old classroom problems this is exactly what I did. I sat down with him at the kitchen table.  I said to him lets write a story.  I called it "your day .... the right way."  We drew pictures of what he did wrong and then We drew pictures next to what he did wrong with what he is supposed to do - the right way part of the day.  We also talked about self control. That self control is not doing what you want to do but what you are supposed to do, doing the right thing.  

I ahve also made him write an apology note to his music teacher .  Real Simple to jsut say 'I am sorry" and sign his name and give it to her. He always has to do that when he has disobeyed.  That is my rule.

Other thing we do is I make him write 5 times (since he is 5y/o) I will listen or whatever he is supposed to do and didnt. He brings that to his teacher along with the apology note.  

We will read over his books he has written when he needs a reminder too.

The results have been wonderful.  It takes consitency and must be done every time there is an incident but soon there wont be any.  This really worked I tried taking away things like prevlidges but it wasnt teaching him self control, respect and so on.  

HIs teachers love this. We also stress self control.

Answer 2

Sometimes, when the positive reinforcement methods don't work, I will use the negative reinforcement way.

When she is talking to me, I will talk to other people (if someone is around) or even to her with a totally different topic.  If she stops, I stop. The moment she starts talking to me, I will repeat the same trick.

The whole idea is to let her realise that it doesn't feel good to be interrupted or ignored. And if 2 persons talk no one can listen.  After sometime, ask her how she feels and explain to her that is how others would feel.

Answer 3

Maybe reverse the roles? Like catch her being "good"

Try telling her that she gets to put a penny in a jar every time she waits her turn to talk, follows the rules - this can carry over to school as well by having the teacher collect them in an envelope or such to send home daily or weekly etc...let her have as much a role in it as possible so she feels some ownership...decide if the reward is monetary or a choice between $$, a trip to a fav. restrnt., a new movie etc....in the reverse she will have to take Out a penny anytime she forgets the rules...I have a 6yr old boy in kg - the situation is different but the behavior and the expectations are not....He has responded super to the reward chart & I was able to get the teacher on board as well (previously there was a discipline chart - he was indifferent to it)

Good Luck~