How can I keep my mouth shut about my secrets? I always feel the need to confess EVERYTHING. Is it my OCD?

Question

Could it be my OCD or the fact that people would always DEMAND an answer for my personal business, & out of threat & intimidation, I feel OBLIGATED to tell?

I can't even keep my own secrets. I can't even surprise anyone because of the SUDDEN urge to "confess". If I accidentally broke a vase @ a friend's house, I'd confess & admit that I did it, & people would call me stupid for it. Is confession a good thing? I feel the need to be honest about EVERYTHING.

& my brother always DEMANDS an answer for my personal business. He asked me what I spend my money on & how much money I have in the bank. & I feel submissive & feel anxiety, & I feel like I'm "obligated" to tell him, rather than assertively telling him, "That's none of your business." I fear what he might do next. & whether I tell him or not, he would go back & tell my mom any & EVERYTHING I tell him. I'm 24, & he's 34. But he can't even tell me what he ate for dinner last night. Either he ignores me, tells a lie about it, or yells @ me, curses me out, & makes a threat to call the cops.

My family is unusual & insane. They flip out over anything.

But anyway, with my anxiety, people say it impairs my judgment.

Answer 1

shut ur mouth

i really need help with this...anybody

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Answer 2

It is not your OCD.  You completely surround yourself with the wrong people.  You need therapy.  I've told you this before.  You need to learn boundaries and you need to learn about loving yourelf and self esteem.  I have anxiety and take medication for it and I don't let others in my life.  It took a long time for me to set "boundaries" but now people respect them and know not to "ask" certain things because I just won't answer them because I'm not obligated to.  As far as this "boyfriend", it sounds like he isn't too good for you either.  When you suffer from disesases like you do you need to surround yourself with positive people who will give your REAL support and not put your down.  I do agree that your family is like a lot of family who have someone who suffers from "mental illness" and they are cruel, but the diseases you have are treatable and you CAN live a perfectly normal life if everyone else would just butt out and let you get yourself together.  You need to believe in yourself, set boundaries and stick to them, love yourself each and every day and start believeing in yourself.  You need to find a way to surround yourself with people who will support you instead of tearing you down, you will never get better around people who try to destroy you.  Sometimes the ones we love can hurt us the most and they don't truly mean it because they don't understand the disease.

Peace & Love  :)

Answer 3

that is very hypocritical of your brother.

if he wants an answer out of you, you should be able to get an answer out of him. yeah yeah, hes 10 years older that you, who cares! your an old enough adult that should be able to take care of yourself. and by the way..hope i don't offend you but your brother is a little suck up. i hate people like that! he needs to mind his own business like you said, don't be afraid to tell him off..if hes 34 and still goes to his mom to tattle about what you say..then that's just sad. your just a truthful person and that's good. just not all the time. you need to know that there are limits, especially to your personal stuff, dint let someone else bully you into doing what they want..they know you very well and that makes them think they can do what ever they want. you should ask your brother about his personal business and see how he likes it.

i believe that your a good person..i think that you were just raised in a way that you have to be honest or bad things will happen to you and karma and that stuff and that probably scared you a bit lol. and btw, I'm kind of the same way about secrets too but you should be able to get over it. =]

hope i helped and tell that wussy you call a  brother to man up...

Answer 4

you are just a person that likes to talk  

Answer 5

to control those urges u should write them in a journal then if u have a cat or dog then tell them in ur room or if u don't have a pet then tell a stuffed animal