How can I keep my x from taking my 6 yr old daughter to casino's.?

Question

My x and I have an agreement through the courts that neither one of us can take our daughter to casino's. My x and I are long time poker players but since our divorce I've stopped and she contiues to the extent of taking my daughter to the casino while she plays poker and also takes her mother to babysit rather than have our daughter stay with me.

She is like alot of players-she never loses big and never wins big either. She has a dream of being a professional. She has played in large tournaments a few times a yr ex. 1500-5000 buy in's. If you add in the amount of time to play and the expenses she's lost alot. I undrstand playing it for enjoyment but can' understand the need to have my daughter there.

Any advice to help would be appreciated. Should I make a stink about it with the court-I'm very compassionate my daughter stays away from gambling. But it puts such a strain on my relationship with my daughters mother. Advice please.

Answer 1

Well if u get a chance talk to your X.If u can.Im so sorry that this is happening.6 year olds don't belong there.Stand strong.Don't give up.There is always a way.You just have to find it.

Answer 2

If she agreed in court to not take your daughter to casinos, then you need to let the court know.  First, try to talk to her in a calm manner, if that doesn't work, hit her with a court order.

Good Luck and stand your ground.

Answer 3

You have to do what's best for your daughter. Casino's are not good environments for 6 year olds at all. If she can't afford a babysitter, then she shouldn't be out taking the poor kid out on these gambling trips. Tell her that you're uncomfortable with it and that if she doesn't stop, you will make a deal about it in court. Say it in a casual but firm way so she's not threatened by you and doesn't get bitchy. Good luck!

Answer 4

I AM REALLY SORRY BUT I

THINK U SHOULD TELL THE

COURT !!! I SORRY ITS NOT RIGHT

FOR A YONUG GIRL TO BE

EXPOSED TO GAMBELING

i dont think u should approach ur x unless ur on gud terms

Answer 5

Talk to the casino's shift manager or the poker room supervisor. These folks will probably be a big help. They are trained to look after the best interests of the casino and its patrons. FYI if your going through a custody battle this might be leverage of a sort to consider against your ex-wife.

Answer 6

Gees thats really something you would rather not worry about when your daughter is out of your sight.  Its a bad thing gambelling. I used to go out with one. One word STRESS...  Good Luck to you and your girl.

Answer 7

Wow I guess I can relate to your ex- but I'm not "as" bad...

I am separated from my hubby (not divorced, but we are living as roommates...just to give you a little background)...

I LOVE to gamble...the way you described your ex- is how I feel too and I love playing in the big tournaments (although I have never played in a $5,000 buy-in like her)...

My hubby HATES poker/gambling, etc...when I play poker online sometimes my son (he'll be 4 in August) will come over and I'll asked him what some of the numbers are...and his father will just flip because he wants him to have nothing to do with poker, cards, gambling...when in reality it can teach him about numbers...He also got mad at me when I asked my daughter what the best starting hand was in hold 'em and she knew the answer...he didn't see the humor in that (my daughter will be 8 in July)...I guess I'm jealous of some families I know who all play cards together, etc...I don't have that...my mother hates gambling and now my hubby does too...so it's something I do in secret on side, although he does know that I gamble on occasion...

Anyhow, can you talk to her?  I mean honestly can you have a conversation with her (my parents can't be in the same room...that's why I am asking)...you need to ask her why...why you can't have your daughter when she goes to the casino...I mean when she's playing poker for over 5 hours straight what difference is it to her, for me personally, I would want my kids to be happy and with their father...

The thing that I don't understand is why your ex- is being so selfish...I just spent the whole weekend playing cards and the kids stayed with their father (for me, that is a mini-vacation)...maybe you guys don't have a good relationship or something that is why she is treating you this way?  (I dunno...just trying to figure it out...)  I would play all the time if I could...I know my kids will be happy with their father...and when I'm not gambling I have an awesome time with them too...

Since I don't know too much of your story I can't answer...I can only give my opinion from a woman gambler with kids...if you want to email me or instant message, I don't mind...take care

P.S. For the record, when I gamble to go to Atlantic City...I was able to take my kids with me ONCE because my father had a room...the only reason I took the kids was because there is a lot to do down therem boardwalkm rides, games (for kids) etc...if it was ONLY a casino I would never bring my kids...although they were fascinating by the lights and sounds and my son wanted so bad to touch the machines...anyhow, if your ex- is bringing your daughter because she can't afford a babysitter, than she has no right to be wasting her money gambling...I really would like to know if you can have a normal conversation with her...something is missing...

Oh, and one other thing...my hubby on more than one occasion like to throw my gambling in my face that he would use it against me in court (he tells me this in anger of course)...he has no idea how much etc...but to him it's only "degenerates, mafia, etc...type people who gamble"  oh well, not gonna try and change his mind on that one...but that is his reasoning for not wanting his kids to play...I would love to teach my kids poker and play with them, I see nothing wrong in that and my hubby is the complete opposite...oh well