How can I keep someone away from my house w/ out getting a restraining order?

Question

It's my daughters dad. I'm tiered of him showing up whenever he wants and just walking in. He's not doing good things in his life right now and wants nothing to do w/ us. He just likes to sleep here because it's closer to town and once he gets in I can't get him out w/ out causing a big scene and it only works half the time. I just don't want to have to cause any type of scene's in front of my children and I want him to respect my wishes in doing whats best for them.

Answer 1

Sorry but the legal and correct way would be to get a restraining order .

The only other thing that you could do is to either get a guard dog or if you rent your home you can talk to the owner and ask them to take out a restraining order keeping him off of the property . I wont guarantee that the land owner will be willing to do this but some will .

In all honesty though you need to stand up to him .

Pick a time that your daughter will not be there and tell him just how you feel and that you are no longer going to be his free motel .

You also need to change the locks and add a dead bolt .

If you don't do some thing he is only going to continue to use you for what ever he can get .

Good luck

Answer 2

I'm sorry you're going through such an experience, Yes I agree with you that this type of behavior in front of your children is not acceptable. I can also understand how a restraining order can conflict between separated parents. It's hard to think of financial support being eradicated because he's in jail. If you feel you are not in danger than do not consider the restraining order.

Change your locks and refuse to answer the door when he knocks. He'll get the picture.

Now if he doesn't leave after you do this, call the police if he's not on the mortgage, lease than he has to leave.As humiliating as it might be it would help to make your neighbors aware of your ex. just in case suspicious activity should arise when you are not at home.

Good luck.

Answer 3

Tell him without the kids around that it is too disruptive for him to pick up the kids at the house, and that in the future you will be meeting him at...wherever. When he comes over don't answer the door.

Answer 4

Assert yourself?  Take control of your life?

Answer 5

Change the locks and get a gun!

Answer 6

How about changing the locks on the door, and adding an additional dead bolt on each one?

How about changing the code to get inside the garage?

How about getting a Home Security company to come out and install a unit?

And if he breaks into your home while you're gone, the cops will arrest him?

Or better yet, STOP LETTING HIM IN!

You are giving him permission to sleep in the house, or come over when he wants.

So accept some responsibility.

Answer 7

Stop letting him in. Keep the doors locked.  

Answer 8

Change the locks and don't answer the door.